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I am almost 22 and my father will not let my girlfriend sleep in my bed? ADVICE AND HELP PLEASE!!!?
I have a girlfriend from college for the last 8 months, we both live away from home when in college so we can stay in each others' places. HOWEVER, she is visiting my house(my actual home) for the first time and meeting my family for the first time. My father said she is not allowed stay in my bed, my mother doesn't mind at all! I have an 18 year old sister who is very mature and 2 younger brothers who are 12 and 14. My father says it would set a bad example and got angry when I questioned him. However, I think it's just the thought the we'd have sex under hos roof that gets to him the most! What are your opinions on (1) his opinion, (2) my opinion(of his opinion) and (3) IS THERE ANYTHING/TRICK/METHOD that I could use or say to PERSUADE him to let her stay in my bed. (Me and my mother are close, I could ask her to say something to him to persuade him, but what???) PLEASE HELP! NIGHTMARE SITUATON! Because we havent seen each other in 5 weeks and lying in bed together is what we most enjoy!!! 10 points for best answer! I will really appreciate your opinion and advice to try and persuade my father. :)
Ok, MONICA, you are just being ridiculous about this. Not much of an adult??? I didn't realise a 21 year old male had to be am "adult" to qualify for the right to sleep in the same bed as the girl he loves-his girlfriend. Yes he is being old fashioned, he even admitted that. All of you who have mentioned about getting a hotel room, I DO NOT HAVE THE MONEY to do that for one night, let alone a week. So that is out of the question entirely. I know 90% of my friends who have girlfriends are allowed stay in the same bed as the girl they love. I am a mature individual who is pretty level headed, I'm finished college and I am doing a Masters next year in Corporate Strategy. I didn't have sex until I was almost 19. I'm a respectable person. So please, nobody question my maturity. I just don't see the big deal with my gf staying in my bed with me. My two younger brothers know that I stay in the same bed as my gf when im away in college, they've heard and talke
11 Answers
- ElleLv 79 years agoFavorite Answer
Your Dad is very right. If you want to sleep with her, go book a hotel for the night. Unless you need your Daddy's $$$ then you're screwed.
- ?Lv 79 years ago
It's his house and therefore his rules
if you want to sleep in the same bed, then book a hotel
He's right, as whatever he lets you do, he has to let the others do when they are your age
If you only had the 18 year old, it would probably be ok
it's the effect on the 12 and 14 year old that will be bothering him
Maybe ask him if there will be a time in the future where he would allow it
maybe after you've been with your g/f a bit longer...see what he says about that
Source(s): mum of 3 young adults - 9 years ago
Homie your doing it all wrong book a local hotel for the time shes there that way you wont interrupt anything back at your pops pad. Also you can get it and after go back to your pops house have some dinner. Your local holiday inn prolly run you like $200 for the week so if you aint got know dough then that should be your new question maybe I can help you out.
Source(s): Da-Don - LeanneLv 79 years ago
I think your father is being pretty old fashioned by today's standards. I don't think its a bad example for your younger siblings considering your age. Is he worried you will be having loud indescreet sex? Or that you haven't had sex yet, and that he is responsible for your girlfriend's honour? Perhaps he finds the whole subject terrifying and embarrassing (concerning his children ahving sex, I mean). Why not ask your mother to ask some of their friends whether they would allow their 22 year old son, and then relay the survey back to him. 'I've checked with 4 of our good friends, and they were all quite surprised and said of course they would allow it, at that age'. This might make him reconsider, if he thought that none of his friends would object or find it a problem.
- 9 years ago
HIs house, his rules. At 22 you will be nearly finished college and when you have a job you can get your own place and sleep together all you like, but until then - keep the peace. She can come to your room in the morning to lie together and keep dad happy
- Anonymous9 years ago
like everyone else has said...his house, his rules. it doesn't matter how old you are, you're under his roof.
if you think you're so grown, get your own place.
if your response to that is "i can't do that right now", then you're not as much of an adult as you claim to be, so your dad has every right to police you.
- flying carpetLv 69 years ago
Respect your fathers wishes.Its his house and he sets the rules.
I know you want your pleasure but just accept what your dad says and be grateful you have parents.
- ?Lv 59 years ago
your best to play along and build his trust, maybe not visit will you get your way but if you behave maybe next time. if hes like me and most blokes, the more you go on about it the more he will dig his heels in
