i suddenly lost my confidence?

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I lost a lot of my confidence over these last couple of days. Does this happen to any of you? I'm a 17 years old male. In addition, today is the worst, maybe it is just not my day. Nevertheless im the kind of person that always try to stay optimistic. When I did the SAT practices on the reading section i would rarely get any wrong. But today, when i tried last year test, i literally would only get half of it right, and would not understand what i did wrong. now i hesitate to answer on any of the questions. Second is my social life...its summer right now but all i do is hang out with my siblings and study. To sum it up, i dont have an active social life. Since summer started, i only hanged out with my friends 6-7 days.  third is my appearance, i always thought i am above average but for some reason today i look horribly ugly..wtf is going on..last is my girl friend. we are doing long distance right now and she is a friendly person. a lot of guys like her because they misunderstand her friendly acts as being flirty. and today she post on like 3 different guys walls saying "ill email you" "i miss you" so on...she has always been like that but i cnt help but to be a little restless. help please? will i get over this or is it just a phase? and yeah my girlfriend...feel free to comment on that, a lot of people are against our relationship.

Bella · Accepted Answer

You look ugly to yourself because you don't feel good about yourself.  Your girlfriend is putting herself out there dude.  She is keeping her options open.  You can call it "friendly," but I'm also a friendly female, and I know how we work!  Don't underestimate friendly.

You're only 17, so you need to get "friendly" too.  Don't sit around and get all in your head over stuff.  Put yourself out there and make some new friends.  Two can play that game.

Anonymous · Answer

For starters, in long distance relationships, one person or the other usually gets tooo distant. Whether she admits to it, or not. And about the self confidence, maybe you should write down everything that you like about yourself. And ask your girlfriend what she likes most about you, too. It may sound dumb, I know. But I'm a teenager, too, just not a boy. Haha, but I think with everything a teenager goes through, we doubt ourselves, and think of every bad thing about our looks, personalities, bodies, everything. You'll feel better about yourself, it might just take a little bit of time. Social life - go out! You're seventeen! Make some new friends, or do something you like with a few old ones. And with people against your relationship, don't listen to them!!!! It's YOUR relationship. If you and your girlfriend love each other and are happy together then the people in your lives should be happy for you both. And not to mention, supportive. Ever need someone to talk to, I'm a great listener and won't ever judge. (: 
Hope I could help. (:

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