Virgin Guy 23, sick and lonley: Let's start from the beginning, I'm a 23 year old virgin living in a small?

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in the UK. As a kid I was really really fat, and at the age of 18 I was diagnosed with diabetes. This made me change my lifestyle quite drastically, I had to change my diet and I have to eat regularly on the hour. I also started to workout, either going to the gym, jogging or swimming. I'm not the fittest guy in the world and I don't have a six-pack but I'm not the fat kid anynore and I know logically that I'm atleast decent looking. But I still have problems looking in the mirror since all I see is that ugly fat guy I used to be.

When I was 19 I went to a party with a couple of friends where I meet a girl. We had alot of fun talking and I could tell she was intrestead in me. We decided to leave the party and go skinny dipping at the beach, I was really nervouse about it since I'm not what you would call well endowed (5.5 inches). But on our way to the beach she gave me my first kiss and we stopped several times to make out, and I felt like I started to lose control over what I was doing. The thing is she was kind of drunk, (not falling over drunk but definatly not sober) I on the other hand because of my diabetes can't drink alcohol anymore. Before we started skinny dipping I asked her if she wanted to stop since she had been drinking and I was sober, she answerd me by taking of all her clothes and after that my brain wouldn't let my resist. I still feel guilty about it because some part of me feel like I took advantage of her, but I couldn't helpmyself. I had never been so happy in my life, kissing a girl that was sitting naked on my lap while in the water. Because her and my friend was with us we didn't go all the way, but I didn't care. I tried contacting her a couple of days later and then she told me it was a nice evening but she didn't want to meet me. She also told me the reason was that I wasn't a good kisser and that she didn't want to teach me, when I told her she was my first kiss. Have u ever felt guilty for hooking up with or kissing a drunk girl when u where sober?

That really didn't help my confidence and to make matters worse I had developed a chronic condition called prostatitis which basically means almost every time I pee it feels like I'm peeing acid. And after an orgasm there is a 50/50 chance I will experience extreme pain. All this had made me really shy, and then I started my last year of high school. I actually got a couple of girl friends and I started to fall for a girl in my class. We could talk for hours everyday, but she had a boyfriend so I didn't want to cross that line. When see broke up with him I wanted to tell her how I felt but I was to late, after a month she started to date a good friend of mine. The rest of the school year went by with the love of my life beeing too far away. At the end of the school year I couldn't take it anymore, I told her how I felt. I said I didn't expect anything I just had to tell her, she was the first girl I had ever loved. Let's just say that not only didn't she respond to my feelings, but I lost one of the best friends I've ever had. That really made me feel guilty, and the thought of ever telling a girl how I feel really scares me.

I've always been kind of a nerdy guy, playing video games and reading comics etc. And it's really clear if u come to my home that I'm a nerd. I'm almost like lenoard from the big bang theory expect I'm not that smart. So if I ever get a girlfriend there are somethings about me she is just going to have to accept. But because of all of my other problems, I just wouldn't feel right about subjecting someone to the pain I have to live with everyday. There has been other girls and even some grown women that has come on to me, but I've been to scared about my kissing, beeing a virgin I know I'm going to suck, because of my size, the chance of pain, and I will probably not last long. And beeing a virgin for so long I don't feel like it would be right to lose it to some random drunk girl. I'm not saving myself for marrige or anything like that, but I would like to atleast have known the girl for more then five seconds. I recently met a gir that I thought could be perfect for me, we went out for a couple of times on what I thought were dates, but a couple of days ago she changed her facebook status to in a releationship with a guy I know. 

A part of my feel like I don't deserve it, but I'm tired of beeing misrable, I want to be happy. I might get to a point where I will get desparet enough to just hook up with some random girl and pretend she cares about me but I'm not there yet. My birthday is coming up soon though and beeing without psyhical contact for so long is starting to get really hard. I just want a girl to share my life with, cuddle up in bed, and telling me she loves me. I had a dream about this recent girl last night and I woke up crying like a baby, it felt so

Riley · Accepted Answer

ok i'm not quite sure what your question is but... hang in there. girls like a guy who is confident. and size doesn't matter as for your 5.5 inches or whatever. what matters is how you use it ;) sounds like your need some confidence. i do feel a lot of sympathy for you but as your dad would say.."buck up and be a man!!" you're not doing anything wrong! don't worry about that stupid girl you went skinny dipping with. you said she was a little drunk but not very drunk so you weren't taking advantage of her and she knew what she was doing. oh and she made you feel bad? she sounds stupid, and she's not worth it!! don't worry about it. just be yourself and be confident when talking to a girl and find things you have in common together and go from there. it will all fall into place and you will find someone.

Paul · Answer

Sounds like you may suffer from chronic prostatitis.   You need to see a doctor and they usually prescribe a regiment of antibiotics.  Make sure you continue to take them for the entire course even when/if your symptoms disappear.

With regards to your size, you fall within the range of what is normal.  A study conducted by LifeStyle condoms.  Sample size was 400 college aged men.  57% measured between 5" and 6"  Contrary to your self perception, you are very much of average length.

Also, dude, you are 23... being a virgin at 23 is not at ALL uncommon.  Stop fixating on it.  You will come across to other women as needy and that is VERY unattractive regardless of what you look like physically.  It can make a guy who would be considered physically attractive to be a total turn off.  Get involved in a hobby that requires you to be involved socially (outside of your domicile) make new friends and learn how to be content where you are at right now.  That will attract people to you and some of them will be single women.

Anonymous · Answer

You're 23. Stop being desperate. Go out, make friends, and don't be a baby. There are A LOT of 23 year old virgins. It's NOT weird.

You just need to go about your business and not be worried about your lack of a love life all the time. Have fun and love with find you. Yeah, that sounds cheesy but still.

And don't do the protitute thing. That's just sad. 

When you aren't looking for a relationship, that's when you'll find the girl you fall in love with.

Relax. Enjoy life. You only live once. (Not a YOLO refrence, just a good solid fact)

Anonymous · Answer

Wow that's an interesting life story bro.....man I don't know what to say, u just made me so emotional.....it's funny how u have encountered so many girls but all of them turned out to be the wrong one, dude my advice is to give up on finding the right girl, and this time let a girl find you ! Let love come and find you .....,

Dude u wana know what, I have never even talked to or touched a girl in my life. But do I care ? I am just going to wait for the right one......for a nerd u got an awesome life of hooking up with so many girls like that

? · Answer

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Anonymous · Answer

I feel really sympathetic towards your situation... Like im really sorry that you have illnesses and that you have been with such horrible girls.
 You dont need a girlfriend to be happy you need to be confident in yourself before someone else can be confident in you, same as love yourself before you let someone else love you. Being a 23 year old virgin is not the end of the world i bet somewhere there is a 50+ virgin who has never seen a girl, touched or dated one. Si you are completely fine...as for the kissing
There is no defined certain way to kiss someone, she was just being a insecure ***** who probably didn&#x27;t want to date you because she didn&#x27;t want you to think she dies stuff like get drunk and make out all of the time.
You dont need to pratice or know how to kiss or have sex to find that special one, you will find that one girl who was designed for you, who will love yoy and treat you right.
She will come looking for you, so don&#x27;t keep searching for girls and dont give up.

? · Answer

To tell you the truth, no one should have to learn how to have sex to be good for their future spouse or partner. If the love of your life is the true one, she shouldn't give a damn about length, or how good you are in bed. She should love you and accept you and want to comfort you every time you're in pain. Hookups lead to misery in that you don't get future contact with that person and your body longs for them again after. Be smart and look for your true love don't throw that away with useless flings. In the end you know it'll be worth it because your wife won't care about bodily illnesses.

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