Should We Have A Baby To Stay Together?

Having a baby is a big NO NO

No children or babies had kept together a man and a woman

At 17 ; you are way to young to be a dad and your gf is not ready for the BIG responsibility of a baby

Well why do you want to move ?

There no work around your place ?

You should NOT be thinking about having a baby yet. You might have been going out for over a year but that's still too early to tell whether or not you guys are truly going to make the distance. Wait until your both actually married before thinking about this. Babies at a young age ruins lives and you definetly run the risk of straining the relationship so bad that you guys end up seperating which means then you still have a baby to work out.

What you should do is accept the fact that you two are going to be long distance for a while. If you two are truly meant to be together then you can stick it out until such a time you can be closer together. Make a plan, maybe you get jobs and save for a house that you can move in. Make a plan and stick to that, that will give you the hope needed to get through it.

Being long distance is going to be hard, but those who emerge from the other side will find a far happier relationship. But what you need to do is firstly accept that this is going to happen and has to happen. Secondly talk to each other about what you can do to eventally be together again. Set financial goals and set realistic times to complete them and soon you two will be well on your way towards being together once again. But whatever you do DO NOT have a baby and screw your lives up. You might be together but I can tell you you're going to be far less happier.

All the best!

oh my! Having a baby to stay together is a horrible idea!!!!!!!!!!!!!if the 2 of you can't stay together for other reasons other than the baby, it won't work in the long-run, you will separate and the victim will be that little baby. So it is a very very bad idea. You are both very young and immature to be bringing up a child which is the biggest responsibility you can undertake. That kid will probably put so much strain on your relationship that it will fail.

Do not move. Why do you have to move? can she come with you? well if you can't avoid the distance then this will be a trial to see how strong your feelings are for each other. It is going to be a lot of work, texting, emailing, skype, taking short trips back and forth....It can work but it is better if you somehow prevent distance coming between the 2 of you.

Do you have a relative you can live with until you turn 18 and can live on your own? If you do, see if you can move in with them so you can remain with your girlfriend.

Definitely don't have a baby with her. Even if by some rare chance you were mature enough to raise the baby, handle a huge change in your relationship with your girlfriend, didn't mind that you'd lose your youth and most of your friends - your baby would end up severely shortchanged because of financial reasons. Without a job history or post-high school education, the best jobs you could hope for would be minimum wage jobs. Both you and your girlfriend would have to work full-time just to make ends meet. There is no way you could afford decent daycare. (If you don't know why this would be such a problem, read up on attachment disorders and how they can develop because of low-quality daycare. Don't just Google it. Read actual books on the subject. Studies show that 50% of these children grow up with attachment issues which can later lead to severe behavioral problems. Even if you and your girlfriend gave the baby all the love in the world, it's possible it wouldn't counteract this.)

Also, did you know that 3% of babies have a birth defect? 1 in 20 kids have a learning disability. 1 in 88 children who have autism spectrum disorders. Would you be capable of dealing with this? Can you imagine how horrible you'd feel if you didn't have the financial resources to help your struggling child?

Oh my.... No, you should NOT have a baby. You are not old enough to raise it, care for it, provide for it. You might not finish high school or have any sort of career. If/when things don't work out with this girl, you will be responsible for another human being, tying you to someone you might not be able to stand in a year or so.

Long distance can work, I've done it myself. But if it doesn't, then you move on. Life goes on, and you're only 17. You will both be just fine. Don't do anything stupid like have a baby just because you don't want to move away with your mom and dad. For God's sake, PLEASE have some common sense.

A baby will not keep you together. People don't stay together just because they have kids - they stay together because they're happy, or just too scared to split up, but a child is no guarantee you'll remain happy, in love, and together.

Do not have a kid at this point in your life. Wait until after you're out of college, and established in a stable job, before bringing another life into the world. The kid deserves better than to be raised by teenagers with no clue what they're doing.

No. Don't. If you're 17, soon you can be responsible for where you live. You can make a choice when you're old enough to support yourself. Until then, you can make it through with Skype and texting. Don't bring a baby into this. If she cries at the thought of you leaving, she's not mature enough to raise a child.

When you're old enough to support a family, you can move anywhere you like. Start planning for that day. Then you can consider what to do.

If your love can't survive a temporary separation, it's not enough to raise a child.

Please oh please DO NOT HAVE A BABY!

What do you think will happen to the little one when you two aren't coping now?All the "arguements & the fights" will get worse, not better. How do you think the extra stress that a little one brings is going to "fix" anything? If anything it will make things HARDER, if you two aren't solid now. Not fair thing to do to the baby, OR each of you either.

Don't get me wrong, I love kids, and had 4 of my own. But I was married and Hubby and I were solid before the kids. And still the strain of looking after a little one 24/7 wasn't easy.

sounds like the more severe a threat reason. battling will damage out from the resentment over this and the female will finally end up being overwhelmed senseless, and he or she will use the "stay mutually because of toddler" excuse to stay there and get the stuffing kicked out of her daily. Dumb idea. Then the youngster will advance up seeing his father beat his mom each and each of the time and could advance as a lot as do an identical element.

you could stay together whether you have a baby or not. if your moving away,why would her having a baby change that? you have to decide which means more to you. to move away or to stay. why are you moving? why couldn't she go with you?