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Psychedalek asked in HealthMental Health · 9 years ago

My parents don't understand my Anxiety and OCD...?

I had OCD when I was a kid, and it seems to have come back. I would have sleepness nights because not enough cars passed my windows for me to sleep. I would hurt myself again if I fell or scraped an elbow, because things can only be done in pairs. I've had bad anxiety the entire time, untreated. My parents just call it being, "a worrywart".

Well lately it's been getting horrible. Last night I was cleaning until 4:00am, because the house felt too dirty for me to sleep, felt contaminated. I'll spend hours picking specks of dirt from the floor individually, to see if they're bugs. I was crying the entire time, because I just couldn't take it and I wanted to stop but couldn't. Nearing the end, I was nauseous, shaking, and extremely faint, but I couldn't stop. Things like this happen quite frequently. I know why they're happening, my friends now why they're happening, but my parents won't acknowledge that I have a problem.

I end up getting in trouble for being, "a problem child", "selfish"... They tell me I can "just stop", that all it takes is effort. That all of my problems are just because I don't try and because I'm lazy. Whenever I try to find comfort in them about my problem, they either yell at me for being lazy, or they just leave and won't talk to me at all... I'm so lonely, hurt, and just absolutely lost for what to do.

I'm a seventeen year old girl, by the way.

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  • Anonymous
    9 years ago
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    Just try to understand that your parents 'simply' don't understand. All you can do is conform to their behaviors and hope that they'll understand someday. Don't get mad, but calmly explain your situation to them; hopefully they'll catch on 'sooner' than later.

    It's a fact that if an individual does not have a similar disorder and has never learned about it, they don't understand it. I always thought people were being ridiculous because they were nervous (or their actions to whatever ailment they have). It's probably karma that I have to deal with it now.

    Just hang in there; that's the only thing you can do. When someone has a mental disorder, it's there for life. You have to learn to manage it.

    While there are ways to manage anxiety, meditation/hypnosis/finding the cause doesn't really work. Those techniques work more with anxiety-filled situations (like when someone's nervous about an occurrence); they don't work as well with disorders. I have tried many things through the years...

    Medication worked for a couple months. However, my body became immune and the doctor suggested more quantities of bigger doses. No thank you!! I refuse to kill my organs! I have found that eliminating stimulants works: caffeine, cigarettes, alcohol, weed, etc. Exercise releases chemicals that help calm your nerves. A warm bath can help, and getting adequate sleep. I just try to avoid situations that can heighten my anxiety, but it's never completely gone. The longer you deal with it, the more you'll understand it for the ability of managing it.

    Source(s): I know it's difficult because I have GAD with a touch of OCD and it took 4 yrs for my parents to accept that I have it.
  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    This is so sad to hear. First off, you are an amazing mother and doing such a great job with this situation. I have been dealing with anxiety and depression since I was 12. I was put on medicines and put through therapy. The doctor had to try all the medicines I could possibly take until I told her around age 16 that she might as well give up. All the medicines did was make me feel more depressed and always tired. I really wish I could tell you how to make it all better but honestly that way I got over it all was putting positive thoughts in my head. I would always tell myself that I only get one chance to live my life and I'm going to make it a great life! I guess over time, I grew up and the depression faded. I found my outlet in photography. Maybe you can suggest a few creative hobbies to her and see if you can't help her find an outlet. I wish you the best of luck and keep staying strong. She is lucky to have a mother so caring.

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    U sound depressed and ur parents are used to you that way. Talk to a different person say a teacher, pastor or school counsellor. Take it upon urself to find help.

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