What make a person gay?

Coming from a gay guy, nothing "makes me gay" other then my body which by default is attracted to male, always has been. Heck, when I was in the closet I experimented with some girls, my body simply never responded to the opposite sex. I was never once introduced to a gay roll model nor was I ever raised in a broken home. I grew up in a conservative household, two parents, two siblings etc. I have always known I was gay, sure when I was younger I was confused but the confusion came from a sense of anger. Why were all my friends attracted to the opposite sex and I wasn't?? Out of my youthful ignorance, I would go home praying everyday to something out there to change me, to "cure me", to make me what I & society perceives to be as "normal" or "natural" but the reality is I never changed because there was nothing to change in the first place. I am who I am, never asked for this but my sexudoesn'tdoesnt define who I am so I have accepted the fact that I am gay. Sure its hard, even after being out its still hard. The constant struggle for acceptance, friends and being comfortable in my own skin. A simple movie of a heterosexual family can get me down or even a lame love story. Why? I dont know, I guess its all part of wishful thinking. I always wanted to invision myself with a wife, a couple kids a nice house with the white picket fence and a dog in the front yard but I know I can still have that just the love story will change. Hopefully I can find someone for me in the foreign future. I never decided to be gay, its not a preference or a life style let alone a choice. Its who I am. If people think its hard to accept someone like me, just put yourself in my shoes, its took me 20 years of my whole life to accept my own self. Being gay or straight is biology, its natural & it is each individuals sexuality.

No one knows what makes a person gay. Scientist have figured there is no gay gene however if genes are involved it must come from a very complex set of genes acting in a complex way. So it would be hard for them to study. Some people say it is because of environmental reasons like an overbearing mother or an absent father figure ( which we all know is a load of rubbish ). The people that say that are usually the religious people that have no idea about what being gay is. If it was an environmental cause wouldn't it be able to be changed back to heterosexuality which has been proven impossible and to only leave the person in a depressed mess. People say they have changed back to heterosexuality by accepting god. I think again that they just choose to live a lie and they become buried in denial. Changing to heterosexuality is probably impossible to almost all non heterosexuals ( if at all possible ) So that proves that gay people are simply the way that they are just like some animals are homosexual. Besides even if scientists discover it is a choice, environmental cause etc (which they wont as it has been proven natural) they cant prove it is wrong.

I agree with Kyle. There are many theories on what makes a person gay - nobody has yet come up with a definitive answer. For me, it was a realisation, not a choice. I don't have a problem with my sexuality and I'm lucky that I live somewhere where being gay isn't a big deal, but I would never have chosen it. I constantly have to gauge whether or not I think people will be comfortable with who I am before I mention the most important person in my life. I know there are people out there who will tell me not to care about what others think, but it's human nature to want acceptance.

Chanakav is incorrect on a few things. Many people are attracted exclusively to one gender or the other.

While the Kinsey Reports scale concerned behavior and not attraction, many of the subjects were either exclusively heterosexual or homosexual.

A recent article in medicaldaily.com, "Male homosexuality is inborn and may be triggered by a gene carried by mothers, new findings suggest." may be enlightening to you.

You can't decide who you will love or who you will be attracted to. You may as well ask, "What makes a person heterosexual?" Our culture doesn't tend to require an answer to that since it's "normal".

Ignore chanakav. Anyone who is gay is born gay, end of story.

No one is exclusively attracted to either gender. People get same sex attraction consciously and unconsciously.

Developmental, sociological, psychological, parental and biological factors predispose or work together to shape a certain sexual orientation. Even religion, law plays a role in defining a sexual orientation. Its not something static that doesn't change. It can be situational or a just a phase.

- There is no gay gene.

- People are not born gay. (except for a very tiny minority)

- Gay people do not have smaller brains.

If you're only attracted to the same sex that means you're gay.

An attraction exclusively or near exclusively to the member of the same sex or gender.

being solely attracted to the same sex

You like penis. or Vagina if you're a lesbian.