i have a real problem?

Being engaged does not contain quite the same responsibilities as being married, however it does have the same fidelity standards. He clearly broke his trust with you and now that the other realtionship did not work out or is on the back burner “for now” he is back playing house with you.

You have good cause and good reason for not trusting him. What he had built up over the preceding years was immediately destroyed by his choices to do the deed. As far as I am concerned he needs to show adequate reason WHY you should take him back and above all, be ready to do whatever it takes to rebuild the lost trust. Him saying “I’m sorry” is fine for him apologizing for hurting your feelings..but it is not an immediate “get out of jail card”. NOW, he needs to do the work. TRUST is earned not automatically granted.

People make mistakes.

What you are saying is that you forgive but you can't forget.

Well you are not forgiving if you can't forget. Let it go. He's back with you. If you keep the resentment, he will leave again. This time for good.

He's not perfect and neither are you. Me either. Keeping an open wound open will never heal.

Heal your relationship. Love him again even stronger so he won't leave. If you can't let it go, then you are not being a full human being. Get over it.

I agree with Bobbie. I can't believe people's advice to you is to 'get over it'. Your trust and faith were shattered by his leaving and it's gonna take time for that to return - if indeed it ever will. That you are both willing to work togethor to make this relationship work is the key, but I do believe the onus is on your partner to reassure you and work at rebuilding the trust. I'm not surprised you feel like distancing yourself, its called self protection, you are still angry that he left you, but of course holding onto anger will not help. Take it slow and good luck

if u were going to take him back after all that u need to forgive and forget i mean really what did u think u were going to do. my wife cheated on me and we talked about it i asked everything i wanted to know about the person. then i forgive her and we never talked about it again. thats the only way it would work u have to trust him or u will always feel like he is cheating on u . and what kind of life is that.

you both should get into professional counseling or you will find yourself always looking over your shoulder and expecting a gtocha moment

You must keep your wits under control.