Guys please answer : he blows hot and cold!!?

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My bf of 3 months kinda blows hot and cold in me , some days he is all over me , texts me 
and is kind and suddenly he becomes kinda cold and does not show his feelings toward me .... I am so confused ! Last time he kinda broke up and contacted me after 12 days , when I talked to him he said " I got scared " !!! This time when I tried to talk to him , he did not say much ...he looks kinda confused emotionally ... I am tired of trying to read his mind all the time . What do you think is the reason ? What should I do ? Now is 3 days and he has not contacted me ....Please help:(

dark_eco_freak2000 · Accepted Answer

Sounds to me that your BF has issues committing.
It's quite possible that he either has experienced a bad relationship before or he simple doesn't know how your relationship works. Not all relationships are the same therefor he might act different from what you might expect.

However those 12 days of silence is pretty different.
He shows affection which will be sincere but he might be scared of loving you because it can end terrible.This is not very uncommon especially when a bad experience lies in the past.

It would be smart to include us details of how you actually behave towards him. That way I might notice some behavioral patern which can explain his behavior a bit more.

But untill then, tell him you love him and ask him to be consistent in his actions.
He doesn't have to be hot or cold all the time but rather a healty dose of in between.

Charlie · Answer

It kinda sounds to me like he's kinda interested but not sure. I mean if I'm with a girl I dont just not contact her for 12 days.

Jason · Answer

Agreed with what Ry said, if he really liked you, he would always want to be there and care for you, and it sounds now like he cares, then doesn't care, then cares, etc. So, if you ask me, hes either losing interest in you or he is having problems at home or in school or something like that and is having a hard time handling stress. Perhaps you could talk to him about it?

Good Luck!

Drew · Answer

You should try to talk this out face to face. Don't be afraid of talking it out. It is amazing how much words can do for a person. If things don't seem like they are working out, then find someone who is much more stable. There are tons of guys out there, you just gotta find that one.

? · Answer

He has another tendroni. It's hard having to split time between 2 women.

? · Answer

Thats tough. Id say if he isnt willing to love you 100% of the time is he even worth yours?

up here · Answer

12 days! i don't think he is really interested in you.. i mean, yeah he likes you but his life doesn't seems to be affected you are not on it... move on, you want to be with someone who thinks about you 24/7

Cade · Answer

either he realy likes you and is just scared out of his mind or he thinks he might be gay (not joking)

Anonymous · Answer

is he a cloud?

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