Why does a man pursue a woman and then act like he doesn't want her?

Not to be rude, but I would ask why you continue to do the same thing- Einstein's definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result, and or beating your head against a wall and expecting something other than a headache....why would you not save your heart for someone that is truly worthy?.....

As far as he goes, when you break things off with him, it triggers feelings of inadequacy on his part, which is why he will do anything and everything to get things back to the status quo (he doesn't like feeling that way) and then of course go back to the same ways as before (that's who he is)....

The other part to your question is - real men don't do this, they choose very wisely a proper mate and move forward with love, affection, honor, fidelity, and trustworthiness and if things don't work out for another reason they don't work out.....problem is most women find this type of guy boring....///

I have never said men are the pursuers. I pursued one of my exes. But subtly :D I let him believe that he was the chaser. But I am usually the more dominant one in a relationship. Then I get bored so I'm looking for a guy who isn't a pushover lol.

I often wonder this myself as I've had similar experience. I can tell you though a guy that is really interested in you, will show interest in the long term.

I'm guessing these type of men don't really want a relationship. They want you to want them, and to believe things can get further. They like that feeling of trying to get a girl to love them. Once you get comfortable and start to care about them they lose the rush and get bored. Meanwhile they probably are doing this to other women as well. These type of men aren't marriage material, since they are to self centred to love another person. They only love themselves, and the rush they get from the chase.

They dont know what the hell they want, you dont need a guy like that in your life, you are going to want someone who is going to be the same Every Day Every Minute, Love takes time, and the right one will come when you least expect it

Guys like a mystery , challenge.When they GET what they want..they lose interest.Simple as that.

If u ask me..playing hard to get or any games for that matter is so stupid.A relationship can only work if both the partners r true to themselves and their lover.

guys can be shallow. they want what they cant have. then once they can have it, they dont appreciate it. but its not fair for us to have to constantly act like we dont care, so that they will act like they care about us. a good relationship should be mutual. if he isnt treating you right, i guarantee you, you can find someone better than him. you deserve someone who will treat you right and treat you with respect, and love you always.

i would also like an answer to the same question. because universally you see clearly that the less attention you pay to a man it seems as if it is the more that he gravitate towards us. i mean, whats up with that?

They enjoy the chase and don't want the woman to get clingy at the same time. Maybe he's just afraid to commit to one person.

Ego. They want to know they *can* win someone over.

"......Why do guys do this???....."

For all the SAME reasons women do this..............