College roommate dilemma?

You're going to have to man up and just tell him that you have plans. He'll get the hint (or at least I hope I do). The thing about roommates is that they're not expected to be your best friend or even a close friend. My roommate and I hung out together probably once a week or every two weeks. We had separate groups of friends because we both did different activities and had different social groups. You need to kindly make him understand you have plans and that he's not invited (in a NICE way).

Examples:

- Sorry man, I made plans and I have to go (aka sense of urgency and he can't come)

- I'd love to but I promised some friends I'd hang out with them (thanks for asking, but I made plans without you)

- Sorry, maybe another time (sorry but you're not welcomed to come)

Just be nice or else it'll make it super awkward.

It sounds to me like your roommate is a bit of a clinger. I know it can be a little overwhelming at some points, but I hope you realize that there is a reason for him being like this. It's probably a sadness that he carries around with him. But if you're really looking for separation, my advice is to just say "I'm sorry, but I can't" to him and let the chips fall where they may. You could also try inviting him to hang out with your other friends and see if he can mesh well with that crowd. If other people see the way he acts and how he carries himself, they may be able to give you feedback about what to do.

im an same, im continuously the single which feels accountable about arguing even tho i grow to be under no circumstances in the incorrect. its as if some human beings look to imagine they have an exact to do what they please, and then even as someone questions it, they make the different individual sense undesirable, even tho they comprehend themselves they were in the incorrect. attempt a peace providing: few beers with a takeaway or someting. then improve the actual undeniable reality that you wont decrease backtrack the subsequent time. :>