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Am i Mental!???????????????????????
Hi,
This is long story short.
I think im struggling with my personality, i know that sounds crazy, but its true.
Im 17, turning 18 soon, and smething keeps holding me back from being my self.
I was sexualy abused by one of my uncles at the age of 8 (i think) And i know it was a long time ago but i still havnt been able to let go, if that makes sense? I just sometimes feel like im not worthy of living, having a bf etc.
Sometimes i think of my self as ruined and do stuff that makes me a bad person (like going to parties getting drunk, hooking up etc) and i come from a very strict family, so my parents find it hard to except my behaviour.
And my mum knows about my past and she says its not big andit wasnt my fault and nothing happend, like shes not a very good person when it comes to dealing with personal problems.
And lately i was wondering if im mental? like so many years have passed and im still clinging on to the past? Does asking such question make me mental? Argha I dont know what to do! -.-
4 Answers
- 9 years agoFavorite Answer
not being a psychologist i couldn't really give you the proffessional word however; sounds like you're just finding it tough to cope with that experience (as everyone would) & are rebelling it by drinking, hooking up, basically doing anything that will confirm you're still worth something.
Put it this way, if you hadn't been abused, you would not worry so much about people loving you, carring for you. but thats not the case so you hook up, get drunk so that people will like you & accept you.
It's quite common for victims of abuse to feel the only way people will love them is by re-enacting the abuse (so you hook up with guys because it's the focus of your problem if you get me).
I'd strongly suggest coucilling here because if you don't relieve this stress & anxiety then as you get older, it will get messier. I can't make you forget the experience but the aim is that you will not allow that experience to own you, determine who you are or dictate what you do.
You are your own person & to hell with whats happened! i really hope you can get over the experience & get a good job/ husband/ life.
- 9 years ago
Firstly you need to know that there's NOTHING WRONG with you. Please don't feel like its your fault. You were very young and someone made the decision to abuse you. You didn't agree to it. I think the only reason that you're still holding on to the past is because you haven't confronted it. You've told your mum but it seems like she hasn't done much to help. You've been holding on to this horrible event and you need to tell somebody, confront the issue. Get it off your chest. And remember this wasn't your fault. Hope I helped. :)
- JuliaLv 79 years ago
no you are not mental you were molested and sexually abused, you need to talk to someone about what happened and deal with it. clearly it did effect you so your mum telling you that it was nothing and no big deal is wrong. a few therapy session would help you get things straight in your head and help you work on your self esteem.
the behaviour you describe is not unusual for a teenager and someone who was sexually abused.
- 9 years ago
No, your not mental.. But probably confused. you need help getting over such a traumatic experience, and its not wrong to ask questions.. no matter what they are. It helps you grow as a person.
