Seeing an unhappily married woman?

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I dated a girl once and while it lasted it was a great relationship. Unfortunately i had went away for a while and couldn't see her. At first we exchanged text messages like all the time, and then halfway through my leave of absence my phone freaked and i stopped getting messages from her all together(skipping ahead a bit) i got back, went to see her we had a minor argument and split because i thought she wanted to end it and that's why the messages stopped, but it was my phone ended getting the messages a couple weeks later dated back to while i was away. Now she's married, the dudes an asshole and a retard(i swear he has no idea what he's pushing away). At first we just kinda hung out cause he goes  to work gets back goes to hang with his friends and left her home all the time so i used to take her out with me and my friends for a bit just so she wouldn't go insane. She went away to spend sometime with family back home and came back and unfortunately nothings changed. We hang out again but the problem is that were starting to like each other again. I don't want to be the wedge that kills the marriage and yet at the same time i feel like if i stopped seeing her i'd be leaving her high and dry.

At present id just like some advice on what i should do, cause like i said emotional connections are forming and things are a bit more complicated now than it was before when we were just hanging out. (id really like some mature input on this not just some "get yours and leave when your bored crap") Thanx in advance

Flower pot · Accepted Answer

I think you should ask her if she really wants to be with this man.If not she should consider a divorce cause it seems like he doesn't truly want her.She should be with whoever makes her happy. I think you should continue seeing her and see where it goes.

Mary M · Answer

First of all it doesn't seem right that he never questions her hanging out with you and your friends this much. Secondly you are going over when he's at work, and she's still married to him. This was a decision she made without you there. Regardless of you going away or not she made the decision to marry him. You should try to slowly back off or you may be the one who gets hurt the most.

? · Answer

Do not get involved with a married woman. Do you know why? Because, what if the husband finds out. Good luck getting your *** kicked. If she really wanted to be with you don't you think she'd already be with you? Right. She would. She's still with this man because that's security and she's not ready to break out of that because she's a coward and you can do so much better.

Ben · Answer

If you feel like you're falling for her you should stop seeing her and respect the sanctity of their marriage. I'm sorry it didn't work out the way you wanted, but we can't all get everything we want. You'll find a better girl for you :)

Anonymous · Answer

if she married him then she must have seen something in him. you can almost always get that back. i suggest you tell her that you think they should get counseling. but like you said don't be the reason they split up. i think she'll resent you for that forever. but if you try to make her and her husband happy again and it doesn't work out i believe she will truly owe it to you for trying to get it back together. and if it works out then just be friends. but don't step in a make their marriage unrecoverable by doing something with her. their together and you have to respect that. good luck

Anonymous · Answer

This other guy is in an actual relationship with her, believe me, he knows EXACTLY what hes pushing away

LP460 · Answer

She shouldn't cheat on him behind his back, but you maybe the real one for her? Is she the real one for you? These are questions online people cannot answer. I think it's wrong to cheat on someone though.

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