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I'm always so lonely, i dont know what to do. i have no friends. im 15, and i spend weeks inside?

Okay, so im 15 years old, and i live in a small town. I have no friends at all. at school, im always left out, and i just usually sit around. i used to have a rly good friend, but he "moved on and told me im no fun anymore" and is hanging out with out people. i never go out, and i just usually sit around playing games, or reading. how do i make friends? im VERY shy. I have no idea how to talk to girls or anything. this could be because i have been bullied harshly when i was younger, and i practically have 0 self esteem. people never approach me. no1 ever talks to me on facebook, and every weekend, when im sitting inside, i feel really sad and depressed.i do sports and i draw, but i rly want to have a social life. i hate it when a bunch of ppl put pics of them going out, and im stuck inside, doing nothing.

so my question is: help me? PLZ! even my parents dont talk to me, as usually they r out working, and they arrive rly late. they work on the weekends too sometimes.

Update:

@minnie: i dont know to be honest. i never annoy anyone. last week, i tried to talk to this girl, but they all started to laugh in my face. i tried not to make such a big deal out of it, but when they do that to you, it really shoots me down. I also tried to fix the situation with my friend, so he asked me to go out with bad company (they smoke weed and wat not) so i refused.

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  • 9 years ago
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    Ok first thing....I want you to be happy. Just be happy and think of positive things. Thank god you are alive for instance or that you have SKILLS.....at least you have 'em.

    Now the next thing I am gonna say to you is....is that I WAS someone like you before. (Now I am not just saying that to comfort you) But when I read your question. I basically could connect so well with it because when I grew up from my early teens till age 20, I was basically a 'non-active' person socially. I was also bullied from 11 till I was 17 or so cause I was fat. I had a few good friends who were like brothers to me, but they left I told me that I was not ....''''cut out for them''' lets say...I even used to get jealous of some of my university or college friends posting pictures of them on facebook thinking that I will never be like them.

    Now, the ADVICE I can give you is. Move on. I know I know its sounds like a common advice, but what I have meant is, you should put your school aside and get some friends on the outside. Try joining some art society or i was always told that the best place to make friends is through SPORTS....and you are good at it. When you proceed to those areas, you will meet people who will have the same interests as you. So you guys can sort of blend in together.

    Moreover, now that I know your family is like that, maybe you should stay up late one day and have a nice talk with your parents. Say that you really wanna have a decent conversation with them at least few times a week. Call them on their cell even when they are working or Text them and ask if they are ok or something

    Next point is, don't ever...EVER :) envy people. I know what it feels like at times. But don't do it. You may be jealous of them going out. But hey, a lot of teens nowadays waste time going out and drinking etc. Which is not good for you. Find the right friends through your societies or something. Even then, one thing I have learnt, always pick your friends and follow your gut. If you feel that they are good or not good, decide well

    Last point is, just be happy with yourself. Do yoga, exercise your build your body up, get a nice spa treatment, TREAT yourself with something. Increase your self esteem and positiveness towards yourself and others. And people will see that in you. Good luck man......I feel ya....Cheers!!!

    P.S: As for girls........they will come for you naturally once you are positive and have high self esteem!!!!

    Source(s): Personal Experience
  • 9 years ago

    Ask the other guys you play sports with if they want to hang out. The worst that can happen is they say no and you go home alone just like you do now. I was always that odd kid that nobody liked and now I'm the funny guy that people love. Just grab life by the balls and go for it, the hardest part of all of it is working up the nerve to talk to people and open up but once you do you will be able to do anything. Even if you don't makes friends with that person you still have that moment to look on and say you had guts if only for five minutes and from the small moment your self esteem grows.

  • 9 years ago

    I can relate to what your going through, I was brought up with parents working all the time, I was shy,quit and didn't have any friends or sibling. This lasted up for about five years until I realised it wasn't doing me any good, so I set goals for myself. If you really want friends, find people that have the same interests as you. If you do sport, join a sports team and eventually you'll start making friends, you also need to look at yourself because I've realised having friends won't bring self esteem and confidence, that comes from yourself.

    As I started making changes with myself and doing positive things I grew confidence and respect and started making heaps of friends. I started surfing by myself, people would laugh because i was so **** at first and everyones else would be out with their friends. But I thought **** it!

    So I goes what I'm trying to say is do what you want, talk to who ever you want and be proud. **** what anyone else thinks :) As long as your happy

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    5 years ago

    Now not really sure what the question is here, however i am guessing you wish to have to understand get a best pal. Simply wait unless you get again to institution and talk to persons who you did not talk to before. Or name your associates and check out to become better buddies with them. Thats all i will be able to say to help with that. Good success P.S. Do not fear, it'll get higher. If you're thirteen, I assume you're going into eighth grade. Thats a quality yr and quite a bit will change for you. Do not worry.

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  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    Walk out your door, and go to where everyone hangs out. You may think that the only people that hang out in that area are kids from your school, but they aren't!! I was previously in your situation, but i started going out with my, 'cool' cousin, and i realised that everyone outside my school was sound! You must have a youth club around your area. Go there and talk! Dont be afraid, they wont hit you! They'll accept you, if you play your cards right! And if you dont, move on to the next guy! Say how it went to me!

    Source(s): Mah own life
  • 9 years ago

    Step one - Break your keyboard

    Step two - Repeat step one to other remaining keyboards in the house.

    Step three - Start a conversation with someone. With.Your.Mouth

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    I know how u feel d u have any sisters to go out with? U could get it sorted out. With the school if one wants to talk to u. There must b a reason

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