Coming out to my parents?

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I'm a girl, and I've had so many boyfriends; I'm in high school, and I always used to check out the guys and giggle and flirt and stuff. But I've stopped doing that, and I'm currently dating my closest friend, who's also a female... 

I always thought I was straight, but now I know my sexuality. I'm Bi, of course, and it's not a phase like some of my friends are saying. I really do love her, I spend every minute I can with her. Kiss her, cuddle with her. I'm starting to think I like having girlfriends more then boyfriends.

But...

My parents are against homo-sexuals/lesbians/bi-sexuals, etc., so if I told them, I'm afraid they'd kick me out of the house or not treat me the same. People say it won't happen, but it will. My aunt told my parents shes a lesbian, and now they refuse to answer her calls. It's against their religion. But I can't keep going to her house and telling my parents "Oh, yeah, sleepover with my friend!" (her parents don't know either) and then just make out and hold hands when no one of our families are around. I need to tell them but I don't know how. Or what to do!

Someone, please, help me.

Abigail · Accepted Answer

I have imagined what it would be like to have that kind of news to give to my parents. It seems scary.  If they kick you out because of that then it is their loss.  If you like girls, you like girls! There is nothing wrong with being gay/lesbian/Bi If anyone thinks differently thats sad. Maybe you can go to your aunt for advice?

stupid · Answer

While you are under their roof, you need to play by their rules.

Also you need to knock off the "making out" portion of your relationship to see how things stand. When you start sexually stimulating each other, it's not the heart that's calling, but your passions. It's hard to separate the two and it's very easy to have a relationship that feels comfortable but is actually destructive.

True spouses are selfless with one another and don't require any sort of physical stimulation to keep things going.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know much about coming out because I'm very straight but I've talked to people who have come out and lived it when my cousin came out to us.  I really think you need to do this.  You should tell them, and then check out books and stuff from the library because the best way to get them to understand is by educating them.  I really hope all works out for you whether you like girls or guys or both.  good luck

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