My girlfriend says she needs a break?

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So, my girlfriend and I have been seeing each other for about 6 months now. I'm 19 and starting college soon, and she's 18 about to start her second semester as a senior in high school. We've had fights, and arguments but always make up and everything goes back to normal. However, Stress has started to become a concern since she has College level English, AP Calculus, Anatomy, and History, plus she plays soccer, so her work has been piling up and up and up and she's failing 4 classes. She says that she can never get her homework done because we're always hanging out and spending all our time together. I absolutely love this girl, and i know i do because I've never felt this way about anyone. i ask her if she loves me and she always says yes, but admits that she can't fully show me because she has a lot to do (which, she does.. I've seen all the work she has to do and it is A LOT) we took a two day break with no talking because she said she needed time to think and see how she felt if i wasn't in her life. after the two days i called her and went to see her and asked how she was doing and stated that she felt like "something was missing". furthermore, The more the stress would build in her the more we would fight, and she'd say "I can't do this" or "i don't have the head for this right now". I'm afraid that she using this stress as an excuse to break up with me because maybe she really just simply doesn't love me anymore. or perhaps she is just REALLY REALLY stressed and needs some time to collect her thoughts and work on whats most important, which is her schoolwork.I try to text her every now and then but i hardly ever get a reply. I just need advise on what to do and how i can better my situation and our relationship. I tried being supportive and even offered to help her do the work for her to take a load of her back but she said no. i don't want to keep texting and calling her to talk about this "break" because that will just add to the stress in my opinion. So, what do i do??

Update:

Another thing that has me thinking that it may simply be the stress is that when i was hugging her i gently massaged the inside of her shoulder blades and she flinched and said "ow!" i asked her if shes been working that muscle out or something thinking that maybe she was just sore. however, she said she hasn't. the inside of the shoulder blades can begin to ache due to overwhelming stress right?

Update 2:

and does mean we're breaing up or does she actually just need some space?

Jeff · Accepted Answer

Honestly Id give her space. If she really is stressed, she needs time alone. If she just wants to break up with you, you need to give her space too. Either way, dont nag at her or pester. Leave her be comepletely alone, and let HER come to YOU, and thats how you'l know if she wants you still. 
  
      If any conversation between you takes place, be super friendly when youre talking to her and just take it easy with her, even if you feel uneasy on the inside. Make her associate you with feeling happy and laughs and such. That way if shes serious about it being "stress", she can see you as an escape from it all, and you can possibly reverse and fix. Just dont make her see you as a chore or something she has to put up with. Be the guy she wants to hang out with. Dont argue with her or any of that. Its counterproductive and just pushes you away.

Anonymous · Answer

Little Dude,

It sounds like you're not the priority anymore. Her school work is. Its extremely important to her and if you get in the way she will resent you. The best thing you can do is encourage her to do her homework. Make it easier for her. Get her to the library and pick her up afterwards. Get her coffee when she studies, then leave. You'll get a few mins of time with her. If she doesnt want you around at all then do that but ask about her later on if she needs anything. IF shes ok. Be a concerned BF. You will not see her much unless you study together. Even then, you'll have to shutup and let her study. If she's not doing good in school, shes not going to be happy. IF she's not happy, she's not going to be happy with you. If you can't do this, then just break it off and move on. You'll find someone who gives you all the attention you need. She'll find someone who is considerate towards her. 

Give her what she needs. Study time!
Another thing, be positive and happy. Dont be a downer. Keep it fresh and happy.

? · Answer

A break can really help or destroy the relationship. If she really loves you then a break will help because she's obviously stressed and needs a little space, so just respect that and give her time. If you find that even after the break things don't get better then maybe there's a problem with the relationship or maybe she just wants to break up.

? · Answer

Well me & my bf of 2 years just broke up, because we needed time of or break however you want to call it. & i regret not giving him time off or the space he wanted, cause now we might not even get back together, and we freakin love each other. But we fight alot, and too much stress. So im saying give your girl, some time. Dont txt her about anything, she has alot of things to worry about, and school should always be  the first priority for both of you, i get it you love her & she loves you, but give her some space thats all she really needs, & probably wants. Dont text her or call her. Atleast in the night text her, that your there for her, if she needs anything & that you love her. Goodluck

Morgan · Answer

I was in her position    , I had to drop two of my college courses in high school and I had to drop my online classes, and now currently am not doing dance, (like your girlfriend is doing soccer) but I had to give that up as well so I could have a social life,
My boyfriend actually brought me out to dinner and we talked about us not spending time together. He talked to me about how stressed out I was about school and how I would put all my anger out on him, and I did, 
And knowing that he works from 4pm to 3am Mondays through Thursdays, it wasn't ever easy to get all my work done spend time with him and go to work 6 days a week. 
It wasn't happening, 
So I thought about my options and went with my boyfriend and now we have the weekends together, no homework allowed in the house on Saturdays and Sundays, movies only :) and if I had work that needed to be done over the weekend, I did it on Friday

Rachel · Answer

i think u should just give her a bit of space for about a week, maybe a bit more. then call her or go see her and talk about it, it sounds like shes just really stressed, but maybe she doesnt have time for a serious relationship right now in her life cuz shes focusing on school. let her know u love her but u understand if she needs space to sort things out

Anonymous · Answer

Give her some space but not too much. It's completely different when they have a full schedule and youve yet to start school. Plus shes graduating in a semester, I'd be stressed too.

Sparto · Answer

Just leave her for a bit and maybe text her at the weekend when she might have a bit of time to reply to your text and talk to you.

Amy · Answer

I honestly think you should walk away, if she loves you she WILL come back if not well theres plenty of other girls out there. Its the best thing i could think of for you to do. hope this helped X

Kenna · Answer

I think is just stressed and needs to work on whatever she is doing but just give her a little time.
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