Are they real friends or am I an idiot?

These girls have known each other for so long that it's almost like they have their own little world together. They can talk and laugh in a cafeteria full of people and it's almost like no one else even exists. It wouldn't matter if it was you sitting there or anyone else, so you can't take this personal because I don't think they are doing it on purpose.

At this age, these girls are so young, that they probably don't even realize that what they are doing is rude so you shouldn't get angry with them. If you start to resent their close relationship, they will eventually start to feel the negative energy, anger, or jealousy coming from you and it will make them want to talk to you even less.

The best thing is to tell them something like this: I like you both as my friends, but sometimes I feel that you two are so close to each other that you don't always include me in things. I know you aren't doing it on purpose and it's because you known each other for so long, but I wish that you both can be as close to me as you are with each other.

If you say it really nice and they don't care or say whatever, just accept it, but don't get angry with them. Keep hanging out with them until you find some new friends. It will be better to have them around until you find some new friends. Maybe after some more time, they will start to feel closer to you and be more social with you.

It takes a really long time to build a very close and strong friendship. Stef and Kathy didn't build their special connection in a year or two, so you can't expect them to feel super close to you when you haven't known them that long. Good and loyal friends are hard to come by, so when you meet a good person try to be friends and treat them right so you can have a long relationship.

If things don't get better with Kathy and Stef, you will have to start being more social and start meeting new people until you make a good connection with someone else.

Maybe she didn't get the text? But that is pretty annoying, to be practically ignored by your "friends". I say go tell them how you feel and how you're going through a rough patch, You need your friends to be there for you, just like you would be for them. If they value their friendship with you even a little, they'll understand and won't let it happen again. If they get worked up about it or start defending themselves/making excuses, leave them. People like that are just "friends" by name. If that happens, I suggest befriending people who actually care about you. You don't need to waste your time on people who can't even pick up their phone and text you about how you're doing.

Stef and Kathy have apparently been friends for a long while, which is why they're going to have a whole lot of inside jokes that you might not get, but if they really turn out to be your real friends, they won't waste a second in letting you in on the jokes too.

I hope it works out! Hope I helped a little and good luck :)