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What age can a Teenager leave home?
I have a 16 year old whom is not happy and wants to leave home because she wants to be grown. She is being disobeident sometimes and sometimes has attitude. I've been doing the best I know how to keep the peace in my home and with her. She does not want to get up in the morning for school, she does not want to study for her test and she does not want to do her homework. I get her whatever I can from time to time but she is still not happy and she keeps asking for more things which at that point I do not get them because of her disrespectful behavior. When I mention to her about an attitude, she threaten me and said she is going to leave if I keep telling her about her attitude. I am a Christian and I am trying to please GOD with the work that I do. I am the child's Legal Guardian and I do love her and care for her but it is very stressful and I am very concerned about this. I do not know where she wants to go or what she expects from me. I am a single parent and from I do really feel like giving up but I am strong and I refuse to give up or give in. She does not like to hear No but I still say No when I have to and explain why I am saying No. I am tired and I am waiting on my answer from GOD to tel me what to do. In the meantime, do you have any suggestions as to what type of discipline and/or consequence this child needs?
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- RichardLv 79 years agoFavorite Answer
I think one of the problems is that kids have no idea of just how much it costs to run a household because they see ads on TV where someone goes into a shop, pulls out a credit card and buys whatever it is that's being advertised. It's as if the credit card is a limitless money tree.
The way I overcame the problem was to make a list of household expenses which covered mainly food, rent, utilities, car and so on where the total of all the bills came to about $25,000 over 12 months. I then said okay, so you want to leave home. Where are you going to get this kind of money to pay for yourself? Of course there was no answer, just deathly silence and no further problems.
I might be wrong here but I think the answer is not necessarily discipline and consequences but more a need to educate her as to what things really cost and how hard it is to pay for all those things and meet her demands as well.
Now for the bottom line. Unless she gets up and goes to school, does her homework and gets really good results in her exams she will end up being poor for her whole life. Try explaining to her that she only gets one chance in life to get a good education, "so don't ruin the rest of your life just because you don't feel like going to school now".
The age where a child can leave home is usually 18. That's when they are legally an adult.
I hope that works for you if you care to try it.
- Anonymous9 years ago
Bah. It's that age when kids think they know it all. You were young, I was 16 just 6 years ago as well. We know how it is. God has no answers here. Also I am not religious so can't say that you should wait. I'd say that your child can leave whenever he can stand on his own two feet. For example, I am 22 and still live with my parrents. Why? Because studying for a masters degree in the university costs a ton and this is a lot cheaper and they don't mind me being here. When your kid is an adult you will have less problems, trust me on that.
- ?Lv 45 years ago
go away abode to stay independently.? Scottish regulation facilitates teens to go away abode legally at 16 years of age. In England and Wales 16 365 days olds can go away abode in uncomplicated terms with parental consent.
- ?Lv 79 years ago
18. first,quit waiting on god to fix this for you,as that isn't going to happen.you need to quit getting her things,as it's never going to be enough.you can give her a taste of what it means to be grown.make her clean her own room,do her own laundry,cook her own meals,pay for her own clothes,get where she needs to get on her own. a good number of kids her age think their parents are idiots and their only job is to make their lives miserable.until she starts going to school and doing what she's supposed to, you get her nothing and you do nothing for her.if she threatens you or refuses to
go to school you can call child services and tell them she is incorrigible and abusive and they will come get her.