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My daughter hits herself, is this normal behavior?

My daughter when she gets really angry will hit herself in the head a lot. some one told me recently that her doing that, self harming, is a sign that she's going to grow up to have emotional problems. is this true. what do you think? does your kids ever hit themselves.

Update:

my daughter is 3

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  • Anonymous
    8 years ago
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    My daughter is five she use to hit herself when she was angry too it's not normal she is haven a had time exprecen herself probably but my daughter is ahdd with behavior problems but that does not mean your little girl is to but you should talk to her doctor about it they may tell you not to worry about but if she has other problems like always going nonstop winny crying alot and so on make sure to write them down all the thing going on you don't think are normal and show her doctor they may send her to have some test done but really they don't test kids til age five I got my daughter to stop hitting her self by grab her hands til she stop try to hit her self than asking her why she was doing it and what up set her it's hard because my use to throw herself down and slam her head on the floor too after the time she knocked herself out I would hold her til she chilled out enought to talk even in the middle of the stores I had to do this it started at age two but write down all the issues even if they tell you there nothing they can do keep the records so when you do take her to be tested they can see how the behavior has changed good luck

  • 8 years ago

    I don't know much about this matter, but I do have two autistic cousins and have worked with a lot of autistic children and I have noticed that when they get agitated they hit themselves on the head. I'm not trying to worry you and I know your daughters behavior must be concerning, but you definitely need to get her to a doctor. Has she had any developmental problems? You should take her to see her primary physician and her physician will refer you to a developmental specialist if necessary. I don't think it's a form of self harm- that kind of thing doesn't develop so early. This kind of thing is common in babys who have full movement, but don't have verbal skills yet. They do this, essentially, to express their frustration because they don't have the words to verbalize it. This does become worrisome if a child who can talk is doing this kind of thing...It could be an indicator of some disorder or developmental delay. It could be nothing, or it could be serious. You need to make a doctors appointment and not worry until they give you something to worry about- if they give you something to worry about.

    Good luck. :)

    Source(s): Me, Myself, and I.
  • 8 years ago

    At this age, most likely normal. Ignore it and then give positive attention when she expresses herself Appropriately. Focus on what she should do when she is mad. If ignoring does not help and this continues as she gets older, then there might be a problem. At this age it sounds like typical toddler tantrums.

  • My mom went through the same thing with me. It turned out I am schitzoaffective. Does she have moodswings or say she sees things that might not be there aside from the occasional "imaginary friend"? Has she ever said she hears voices in her head? Some kids can go without medication and others might need low doses to help keep things in check. If she fits any symptoms of something have her checked out just in case. she might grow out of it or she might be trying to tell you something.

  • y
    Lv 7
    8 years ago

    What that person told you is a load of crap. It's because she doesn't have the tools as of yet to properly express her frustration. Those skills need to be taught at this age, should have started earlier and will continue for a few years at the very least.

  • 8 years ago

    You don't say how old she is, but this is a very common phase for toddlers/preschoolers. Unless she's actually hurting herself I would just ignore the behavior as reacting to it is giving her what she's seeking...attention. My son is three and he's in this phase right now. If I ignore him hitting himself he usually stops dong it within a few minutes. If I say something tp him about it, he keeps doing it longer.

  • ?
    Lv 4
    8 years ago

    Ask her why she's doing that. Maybe she's just really overwhelmed. If that's the case, it could be a sign of future temperamental isssues..like some serious tantrums. I know when I wanna stab myself in the thigh with a pencil eraser, I'm mad as HELL.

    Emphasis on COULD be.

  • ?
    Lv 4
    5 years ago

    one in all those self abuse could be undemanding yet isn't unavoidably healthful or suitable habit. i'd take her to a counselor who works with youthful babies. even although she is youthful, self-harming habit is something which could be a demonstration there's a greater extreme emotional situation. i do no longer choose to scare you or something, via fact the habit may be fixed in maximum situations. yet i'd handle it via seeing a habit expert or counselor. they might have an ordinary answer to the project which you're no longer seeing. some babies try this for interest, so one element you may attempt is in simple terms overlook related to the habit while she does it. till you think of she would desire to be heavily harm, in simple terms flow approximately what you're advertising and overlook approximately it. Or positioned her in a play pen or different risk-free area with some comfortable toys and in simple terms permit her have it out in there the place there is not any longer something sharp. yet once you're giving her lots of interest while she does it you may nicely be inadvertently rewarding the habit. youthful babies in lots of situations do no longer understand the version between unfavourable and beneficial interest and in the event that they choose interest they'll act out. in case you sense like possibly she does it once you're busy and he or she feels bored or omitted attempt intervening till now it gets to that element via combating what you're doing and interpreting her a narrative or doing something at the same time for a whilst. reward her good habit and you will see greater outcomes than once you punish her undesirable habit. day out for tantrums is in lots of situations effectual in case you stick to it. i comprehend this is totally difficult yet wait and spot, provide her lots of interest while she is being good, and overlook approximately her while she acts out and he or she will learn that good habit is a thank you to get your interest. good success!

  • 8 years ago

    So who taught her to do this? Have you or someone been hitting her so now she just does what she has been taught? If not, better get her to a doctor or psychologist because she already has "emotional problems"!

    Source(s): common sense
  • 8 years ago

    What do you think Sherlock? Did you grow up hitting yourself? .... You shud get her checked out. Give her medications at a younger stage might make her better then older stage.

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