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Can you fall out of love?
Caution, kinda long
Ok, so I am having a long distance relationship with my "feonce" (forgot how to spell it)
We are both sophomores in high school, he is 16, I'm 15.
When I first met him, I was crazy about him, (i honestly thought i was in dire love with him) but he didn't know, so we were just friends.
A while after I moved to Oregon, from Idaho (over 400 miles apart), he told me that he loved me. So me, feeling like the most happy person in the world, spilled the beans about my feelings about him, and we made a relationship.
After a few weeks of having a long distance relationship, I was joking about marriage, and he proposed to me over the phone, and i said yes. He said once we were able to see each other in real life, he would propose correctly.
When we got engaged, (over the phone) he talked about were we would live, what we would name our kids, he wanted a boy first, and a girl, and wanted to name him after himself. I found that funny.
We have been engaged for a couple months, but I don't feel the spark anymore. (remember we are both sophomores in high school)
And I know your thinking, how stupid it is I be engaged in high school, and how it won't work out, I know all of that, I see your point, I really do.
But while we talk on the phone, he doesn't sound excited anymore, never says I love you, or I miss you, only when I say it to him.
(does it sound like he is cheating?)
So I've been thinking lately if I shoul break it off with him, just so its easier for both of us.
I don't feel the excitement, or spark we used to have anymore, but I don't want to hurt him.
When I imagine my life with him, it only seems partially interesting. The old feelings of love still barely linger, but it's a little boring.
So, a few questions: can you fall out of love?
Wht is your opinion/comments on this situation?
What do you suggest I do?
Should it break it up with him?
Does it sound like he is cheating?
P.s- my mom only thinks we are dating, noengaged
3 Answers
- Br¤wn Σ￥Σ§Lv 58 years agoFavorite Answer
Yes you most certainly can fall out of love. Im 24 and yes I have been there, I was deeply in love my baby daddy, had a stillbirth. But even tho he was abusive in every way possible I was in love with him and finally one day I woke up and the feelings were just no longer there, from being excited each moment he walked threw the door to wanting to vomit at the sight of him. So yes you can fall out of love. It doesn't sound like he is excited anymore either maybe he has regretted asking you to marry him so young or maybe he is cheating or he does love you but just aint capable of making a long distant relationship work cuz that alone is very difficult. You should talk and I mean a real heart to heart conversation and understand where you both are at in this. And if you are no longer happy in this then it would probably be best to seperate.
Source(s): Experience - ?Lv 45 years ago
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