Re-ask: Should i keep driving my husband to work when we have two cars?

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My husband and i are newly weds (been married about 6 months) and when we were dating he didn't have a license cuz he was fine with walking while he was in school. So whenever we'd goto do something i always drove which didn't bug me too much cuz he didn't have a license anyway. Well he finally got his license right before we got married and then after we were married i continued to drive him to work in the early mornings because we only had one car then. Well, recently we bought a brand new car and before we got it we'd talked some about him being able to drive to work and stuff. But now that we have the car i think he's realized that means he has to leave a few minutes earlier and that he has to walk across the large parking lot too when it's cold. He also would have less time to eat lunch at home if he drives because he has to drive home first. Anyways, i feel like he should be driving himself to work even though he'll lose some time because i don't need to get up that early but i get up at 7 to take him to work when i could sleep in til 10. Instead i get up and throw on junk clothes and take him to work and then come back home and take a nap. It's not a huge deal taking him to work sometimes but he is a grown man, so i feel kind of embarassed telling my family that i still take him to work even though we have two cars. He usually gets all complainy if i ask about him driving himself to work. I recently got him to agree that if i'm super tired in the morning i can ask him to drive himself, but even when i do, it seems like it puts him off a little with me the rest of the day. I'm also pregnant and the other day i threw up in the morning so i asked him to drive himself and he said he would but he even told me he was trying to think of a legit reason to have me take him and he laughed it off. It just bugs me that i'm driving my husband to work all of the time when he's perfectly capable of driving himself and i'm pregnant so i need my rest, you know? What do you guys think? Nice comments, please. My husband is a great man this is the only thing i need advice on. Thanks!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'd love to have your money.

With the cost of gas today, you drive from your house to the workplace four times a day-
1) You take him to work.
2) you pick him up and bring him home for lunch
3) you take him back to work after lunch
4) You drive to work and bring him home
and you have purchased, registered and insured a brand new car.

This is how grown ups act:  They get themselves to work in the morning.  They eat in the lunch room.  They drive themselves home at the end of the day.  

I think your husband is pulling a fast one on you.  I think he's controlling you so he always knows what you're doing and you don't have any time to yourself.  I think he is being absolutely ridiculous expecting you to drive him four times a day.  And mean.  And absurd.  Expect his controlling behavior to get worse as time goes on.

wants2know · Answer

I wouldn't if I were you especially since you are pregnant. Omg the nausea alone and being physically tired all the time is enough alone. You need to rest up and take care of yourself and explain to him how you physically feel. In time it may pass but he can drive himself to work especially if he has to be awake to be at work. When the baby arrives you will be even more tired. Let him drive himself. Best wishes and congratulations

Anonymous · Answer

I honestly hate driving yea it gets you from point A to point B but I hate driving people drive so crazy and always get away with it. I was forced into drivers ed because I was afraid of some crazy driver hitting me and hurting or killing me I drive now but I still hate it cause of that fear. He might be the same way, ask him if hes ever been in a traumatic car wreck or something maybe thats why he doesn't want to drive

Finwie · Answer

Tell him that if he refuses to drive by himself then what's the use of the second car? Suggest you should sell it, maybe that will make him rethink his behavior. Also, keep on saying no. He can damn well travel alone, he sounds just spoiled. He should really think of you first now since you're pregnant. Stand your ground and tell him that you NEED rest because you're pregnant with his child.

Legandivori · Answer

Tell him it's too dangerous for you to drive with morning sickness before a pregnancy....and stop all iiving in early AM. If he gets an attitude, tell him he can get pregnant the next time to see what it is like. YOu will arrange it.

??? · Answer

Stay in bed in the morning and if he bugs you or wakes you up, act sleepy/grouchy and tell him you're pregnant and sick and he can drive himself. Just keep doing it until he gets the point.

parissa parvinmehr · Answer

dear you dont have to do this bcz he will forget that he has responsobility of you . if you do something like this you will lose your value in the future . tell him honestly that you cant do that anymore you want to sleep and be comfortable . if you dont do that you will be angry and angry and angry and you will react in the future.

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