Caught in a bad romance? (No joke) LOL?

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Hopefully, all the people that used to be on this place that give good advice is still here :( Please help. No stating the obvious, please explain more deeper. Sorry it is so long, but please read.

I have an app on my phone that is a gay friend finding app. 
I messaged people just to meet good gay friends living in my area. 
This dude messages me back, and it turned into a friendly conversation to a sexual one within 3 messages, which I was okay with and I was also into.
This dude lives in the apartment right next to my apartment, litterally less than a minute away, but I figured out when I met him that I actually know him from high school. He used to try and bring me down because I was gay, but ofcourse, I always defended myself and I wouldn't let myself be bullied, so I honestly didn't care about his stupid remarks. 
So him and I did sexual things, but now I kind of feel awkward and I don't want to do it anymore, but on the other hand, I really want to fulfill my sexual desires, yet I do not want to meet other strangers to do so. I like that I know him, even if we weren't in good terms, but I don't like that it is just like I'm in twilight zone everytime he texts me. 

P.S. he still thinks he's "straight" and he is a christian homophobic kind

Please help me, what should I do? And please leave guidelines of how I should solve this problem in my head.  

Sorry for the imperfect grammar and vocabulary, but I am in a hurry and I do not really want to organize this or anything. 

Thank you so much in advanced.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Clearly, your intuition is telling you to don't do it with this guy.
And your intuition seems to be just right.

First of, I can see how it can be hard.
Wanting to explore ones sexuality and fulfil ones desire, is a pretty common need. Not wanting to do it, with a strange makes perfect sense.
But I think you have to bite in the sexually frustrated apple, until you find a person you can explore your desires with. Someone you can trust and care for.

Since he is either in denial of he's own sexuality or just exploring he's sexuality. He isn't the guy, to do this with. You don't want to become, he's dirty little secret.

Just tell him, that you think it's a bad idea to do it again.
Tell him that you feel uncomfortable and awkward afterwards. And that It's best, that you stop having a sexual relationship. 

If you don't feel awesome about it, just stop it.

abcdef · Answer

You've explained it pretty well.
The other guy is obviously conflicted between his natural desires to have sex with other men and his so called Christian background and beliefs.  I'd get away from him fast.  You don't need the drama.  Instead of meeting strangers to have sex, you could join some groups with people of similar interests to yours - gay groups.  Your local gay community centre is one place to start.  Or Google the interest (eg. bowling), your area and "gay".  That might be another place to start.  Of course, if you enjoy the sex you're having with this guy, and it feels more good than bad, you could simply choose to ignore his conflicts and know that it is strictly a sexual release.  I personally wouldn't find that satisfactory, but as long as you're both adults and no one is getting hurt, then what's the problem?
I hope that's given you enough to go on.
Good luck.

Anonymous · Answer

WOW reminds me of glee? but i would carry on with him, at least you know him and you know he doesnt have stis, and hes a minute away! aha, cheesy and i hate it, but you do only live once, have fun! please try and answer my questions?

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