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How can I teach my daughter how to protect himself without spending money?
I'm trying to teach my daguhter how to protect herself, and at the same time I'm trying to beef her up since she says people keep bullying her at his school (We live in a bad area of town). Me and my wife are very poor so we won't be able to afford any professional training for our daughter, how could I teach her how to protect himself? And before anybody tells me to call the principle or something like that... we already tried, and it didn't help. What can I do?
7 Answers
- KokoroLv 78 years agoFavorite Answer
Community centers have inexpensive programs, also some times churches, or ymca have them. that might be more with in your budget, not all good martial artist teach out of store fronts.
The best places are not always the most expensive.
Learning from home or being self taught, is like doing your own dental work.
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also keep in mind bulling is illegal and many states have in-acted laws. yo can bring this to the attention of the police, the news or look into getting an attorney and file a lawsuit.
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Dominic self defense weapons in a school environment are not a good idea you can get in more trouble for having them
Source(s): 30 yrs ma - possumLv 78 years ago
There is nothing that martial arts can help you in a short period of time. It's an effective tool, but it takes time for it to develop. Building the foundation for good skills requires first learning basic techniques, and such can be dangerous to use without understanding more about why they're basic techniques.
Kokoro is right, bullying is illegal in most states. If your principal does nothing, then speak with the superintendent of schools. If that does not work, write or call your local attorney general's office; your state's civil rights board; your state's licensing board; and the local police department. If your daughter has a disability - even minor - then you might have avenues with the department of justice.
Although having a disability may not be related to your daughter's problems, it may be the source of the bullying, making it very relevant.
If you reside in New Jersey, for example, file a complaint with the...
NJ Division of Civil Rights
Attorney General
Office of Licensure & Credentials
...and the federal government
If you are overwhelmed, seek a qualified lawyer. Use a church group, the local police, the attorney general's office, or the American Bar Asscociation to help find you a free or low cost lawyer.
Look for bully victim advocacy groups, such as (http://www.novabucks.org/bullying.html). They may have letter templates you can use, may be able to counsel you on which authorities to contact, what your rights are, and often... just offering a shoulder for support.
Source(s): NJ Division of Civil Rights: http://www.nj.gov/oag/dcr/index.html New Jersey Attorney General: http://www.state.nj.us/lps/ Office of Licensure & Credentials: http://www.nj.gov/education/educators/license/ Federal Department of Justice: http://www.ada.gov/ American Bar Association: http://www.americanbar.org/aba.html Nova Bucks: http://www.novabucks.org/bullying.html - ?Lv 48 years ago
There is some good advice in the answers I have read....Staying in a group, have someone bigger walk her to and from school, contact the police and so on....Carrying any kind of a weapon without training is foolish, and without intent to injure/maim or kill as required by the situation, could get her hurt/injured or killed....
Your question though was how to teach your daughter to defend herself......Look for video or books focused on street fighting...She doesn't have to become a Martial Arts Master or Golden Gloves Boxer, she needs to learn to hurt and/or injure someone fast. Definition: Hurt, pain inflicted to the body. Injury, pain inflicted to the body resulting from damage to tissue or organ. I hope this helps, you maybe able to find these books or videos in your local library. Good Luck
- IsaiahLv 58 years ago
If you're actually just asking about martial arts/self-defence, you can teach her the basic principles yourself - how to throw a punch, kick etc. But if she's being bullied by bigger kids, or a group of kids, then there aren't any "moves" you can teach her that will help her immediately. Instead, maybe you should focus on teaching her how to diffuse a situation verbally or how to walk away from a fight. Or perhaps you can find someone older/bigger to walk her to and from school.
Source(s): my opinion - ?Lv 45 years ago
teach him ur slef take time out of ur day n teach him how to fight unlike my father i learned to protect my self i dont take **** from no1 i am the 2nd strongest in my house after my nd oldest bro its him me then so on n so on but yea i learned to fightmy self have him take an hour a day n go lift some weights or lift heavy things around the house i done this and i was benching 180 at age 10 n now im benching 200+ now n im only 17
- Jas KeyLv 68 years ago
The problem I see mainly is that you don’t want to have your child attacking back. If there is a fight in a school most schools will turn to zero tolerance policy. With that said you also don’t want her to get hurt. The best solution is for her to move in a group. The bullying tends to target the alone and tries to ridicule or hurt the target. But if your daughter is in a big group of friends then the ridiculing and hurting could be done to the bully and thus bully tends to stay away from them. Unfortunately that is the basis of gangs and you don’t want to have her end up in one of those, but as long as she just stick together with one or two of her friends she should better off. But that is the optimal condition.
Try to work with her on escaping a bad situation both with words and with physical positioning of herself. This is damage control method when she is trapped in a bad situation, and planning a way out of it to report about it. If there was an actual incident to address immediately the school officials will be able and more willing to act on it. This type of training is mainly based on logic and common sense so there really isn’t that much training on this stuff. Just work with her previous bad encounters and try to solve that situation with her. Key of course is to work with her to come up with a solution, not to point out what she didn’t do that she could have done. (different way of seeing the same thing, but makes a world of difference to kids) Try the book ‘meditation on violence’. It’s not about school setting or anything like that, but it helps you understand the mind set of people who cause violence and possibly how to keep yourself clear of those people.
Lastly is fighting for her physical safety. Unfortunately, this is where you might need a professional to help you out, but you can’t get one. The best source, given your resources, I think is from books and youtube. Youtube can usually give good instruction to techniques, however it lacks the observation and correction from a experienced professionals. That means that fighting should absolutely be her last resource as it is very undependable one. With that said, anything in my opinion is better than nothing. Given it’s a school setting and it’s bullying you won’t have to deal with so much the lethal attacks or attacks with a weapon. Which means you could stick with more tame sportive martial arts. I would recommend Greg Jackson’s books (there’s two) to start, or to try the Krav Maga books by David Kahn(mainly the first one). If there’s any question on a technique or to see more about it you can always youtube the technique and you’ll be able to get more pointers and see the actual execution of it. And sometime you can leave youtube comment question and get it answered.
Sorry it’s such a long drawn out answer, but this is very difficult topic. I wish you luck, and as this method is a make shift one based on the needs I would suggest getting a professional to work with you if you can in the near future. Until then above is my best shot at your problem. Good luck.
Edit: Kokoro and possum have amazing advices and I would tries both of their before mine. My solution seems to within the dimension the problem was created in and their work outside and beyond it. Which according to Einstein is the way to go with solving problems.