Is it too much to ask your boyfriend of more than a year to at least finish the divorce process?

This may be the skeptic in me because I was married to a less-than-perfect guy (to say the least), but it's quite possible that he already IS divorced. Do you have any proof that he still isn't?

If he's already paying alimony and child support, it means they've already gone to court. He could have the amount modified higher or lower if there was a valid reason. If you are ABSOLUTELY sure he is still married, and it's been a year, you have basically been dating a married man, which only wasted your time, and gave him something to do.

If he hasn't done anything yet, it's doubtful he'll do anything now.

P.S. If I'm just being cautious, I apologize.

A man who won't finish his divorce, not even to marry you or give you what you want ... and you can't imagine anyone better?

He's not such a great prize, sweetheart.

And you don't even know if he has relationship skills. With his history he only seems to know two things, for sure:

1. getting women pregnant

2. how to wreck his marriage and end up divorced (it takes two to wreck a marriage)

Give him one more year. You should NOT be marrying or getting pregnant with someone you haven't dated less than 2 years, anyway .. it's just too risky.

Give him a deadline, and if he hasn't divorced by then, keep your threat. Leave him .. because that means he will not be marrying you and giving you babies.

And always remember... love is NOT what makes it work. If love was all it took, there would not be a 50% divorce rate. Love only makes us wish it would work.

34 .. yes, you are running out of time. Make that 3 months, not one year.

It's not too much to ask, but he won't finish the divorce until he's ready. My husband left 6 years ago. Our divorce is not final. I'm in no hurry because I still need the health insurance he still has to provide because we are still legally married. I would bet $1,000 that he's in no hurry because then no girlfriend can pressure him to get married.

BTW, if alimony and child support have already been ordered by the courts, it will not change once the divorce is final. Alimony and child support only change if there is a change in income on either side.

Edit: Vivian is an idiot. I had my first child at 34, second at 36 and third at 40. All perfectly healthy.

Why are you dating a married man? You shouldn't even have considered getting involved until the divorce process was final.

One sure fire way is to let him know how you feel. If he's that good and he cares for you he would have done something about it. Find out what's holding him back. Let him know you don't like being the other woman.

Yes, he needs to address the divorce issues and move on with the divorce..so you both can move forward in your relationship.

Hun, that's the least you can ask. You deserve more than that.

noo its not