Should I Be Offended By what My Friend Wrote to Me?

Question

I sent my friend of 40 years a $10.00 Trader Joe's Gift Card in the Christmas card that I mailed to her.  About a week later I received her Christmas Card with a $20.00 bill in it.  She put a post-it note on the card reading:  You owe me no gift.  Her birthday is coming so what I did was I wrote on her birthday card  "I gave you a $10.00 Gift Card.  You gave me a $20.00 and I now give you $10.00 back for your birthday and this will even everything out.  You also owe me no gift.  I also gave her back her post it so she can see that I am just repeating her words.  Question is should I have been offended by what she did when she sent me that post-it?

marie · Accepted Answer

Nope she just didn't know she was getting a gift from u no harm no foul she just wants u to know that she is grateful and that u shouldn't have

MICHAEL · Answer

No not at all, you guys are friends and if she doesn’t want you to be obligated and take the time into doing some thing because she feels it may be a Hassel for you in any kind of way she is going to do what she think is right. Also I want to say don’t let money ruin a friendship, its so much more than that and life is so short to let money take over out lives.

? · Answer

No, you shouldn't take offense at all. She was either being very thoughtful or very silly. In either way, you're friends. My best friend and I would probably both go together to make sure we got the same thing (say, for instance, if she gave me one), I'd go with her to get another one, and then I'd give it to her to "reciprocate" her gift.

It's all in fun .... that's what friends are for. You have each other, that's all you need.

Shaina · Answer

Nope. She just didnt want you to feel obligated into giving her anything. There's no offense there

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Should I Be Offended By what My Friend Wrote to Me?

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