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How can I get my sister to be less selfish?
She is thirteen and very selfish. She is constantly frustrating my mom and I don't know what to do about it. It's really coming out around the holiday time of year. Here are some things that she ACTUALLY says:
"It has to be an iPod 5th generation or I'm seriously going to cry."
"My keyboard has to be weighted with at least four octaves or I won't be happy."
It's just been getting worse and worse, and I decided to ask this question when I heard my mom crying in my sister's room just now.
She just doesn't see how much she's been blessed and she won't express gratitude! Please, how can I help to fix this?
My mom has made it a point not to give in. She refuses to get anything that my sister selfishly wants. She isn't distraught because of all the money she would be spending, she's frustrated because she doesn't want her to be like she is now.
I know it isn't my place to make big decisions or to fix everything myself, but I know that I can contribute somehow.
6 Answers
- ?Lv 78 years agoFavorite Answer
She's too spoiled and your mom needs to stop giving in. You need to pull your mom to the side and talk to her. Obviously, your sister feels entitled and constantly giving in to her will only make it worse. It could weigh heavy on future relationships and destroy her concept of reality if she sees the World and its people in Universal debt to her. It's a delusional fantasy and very destructive. Please speak with your mom because your sister needs to see reality the way it is. Not the way she wants it to be.
- MircatLv 78 years ago
First thing: You are NOT the parent so you do not teach her anything. It's not your job. That's the job of your parents. If they choose to handle it or not or do it wrong is still none of your business.
Second thing: It doesn't matter what selfish things your sister says. They are simply words. Absolutely nobody has to pay attention to them. Just ignore them get her whatever gift you want to give her or give her nothing. Your choice. But if everybody ignores what she says that will be helping her more than you can imagine. She is just emotionally trying to blackmail everyone so you ignore it. Who cares if she gets upset or cries? That's her choice to act that way.
Go about your life and live it and ignore her. When you give her attention it actually makes the problem worse.
When she starts carrying on put your head phones on and tune her out.
Happy holidays and I hope 2013 is quieter.
- 8 years ago
She is obviously looking for the attention after being left out, about the ipod. maybe she needs a four octave keyboard that is weighted for practicing piano or something.
- Anonymous8 years ago
Show her the lives of people who are less fortunate. Don't get her anything as a punishment. If you give in to her wishes it will only get worse.
- MarieLv 78 years ago
You cannot fix how your sister behaves or how your mom chooses to respond. What you can do is realize that you don't need to be upset about it. Your sister is in for a lot of crying in her life her own expectations, best to learn how to allow that to happen. When she realizes that nobody else is going to try to fix her anymore she will have to start working on fixing herself.
- StephanieLv 68 years ago
There might be something going on with your sisters that you're unaware of. Talk to her, tell her how much stress she's putting on the family and that it's hurting others.
