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Should you avoid your ex?

So here's a little scenario:

Theres a high school reunion party with me, my gf, her ex, and a bunch of friends. We have been together for almost a year but she has been with her ex in the past for probably about a month (happened a year ago).

Would it be appropriate for me and my gf to avoid her ex? Me and him dont really have conflicts. I dont think he misses my gf since he broke up with her.

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  • 8 years ago
    Favorite Answer

    I'd just avoid him. Otherwise, it'll be awkward, even if there is no bad blood.

  • 5 years ago

    I consider you must let her down gently. Absolutely that you can think how she feels. She meant to marry you but your parents did not agree that she must be your spouse. That's a tough pill to swallow. No one wishes to be rejected, and he or she was once rejected through both you and your mom and dad. 2 years is a serious relationship. Make an effort to have a nice dialog with your ex. Let her recognize that she will normally be an mighty a part of your memories, and that the person she is to marry is waiting out there for her. Put the focal point on how you need HER to be glad. Effortlessly put, this is going to hurt her no matter what you say, considering the fact that being rejected hurts. However you could aid her. I would expect you continue to care about her as a person. Inform her that she will make a unusual spouse, an robust mother, and a quality partner for her future husband. Inform her that her parents must be so proud, and that your have been honored to have dated her, and that you simply appear again with fond recollections. As long as you hold reminding her that what you had was in the past, and will likely be a quality memory, she is going to get the trace. It seems like she just needs somewhat more time with you to help you go, or she desires to be buddies. I say give her that extra time. This doesn't mean that you're not dedicated to your ex, or that you are dishonest on her. It method that you are an grownup with a coronary heart who is making an attempt to helped a former cherished one cope with a loss. If you are not seeking to string her along or get back together with her, you are not doing some thing incorrect. Inform your ex that you are getting ready for marriage, and that these telephone calls have to discontinue via a detailed date (i.E. Next month). I suppose that she simply wants just a few more conversations with you to permit her to come to terms that you're long gone. Some persons take more time to let go than others. Let her down gently.

  • 8 years ago

    I don't think you should go out of your way to avoid him. It's been a year, so I'm sure he's not still pining after her. And even if he is, it's not like she's interested any longer. There shouldn't be any harm in friendly small talk should you find yourselves together. Avoidance could just get awkward.

  • ?
    Lv 7
    8 years ago

    If there are no conflicts, then obviously avoiding him might make a conflict. Exes can be friends. If there are no harsh feelings then you should not try to avoid him at all.

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    I think that since it's been about a year you don't have to totally avoid him. Maybe just don't talk to him too much but there's no need to actually avoid him.

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    If you don't have any conflicts. You should not aviod him. To show your generous and polite.

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    yes

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