I'm 50, living in a Nursing Home..?

Here you go Tom, power of attorney is only effective until YOU revoke it, re-read what you signed - it should be on file at the nursing home so you don't have to ask your sister to provide it. You seem to have presence of mind to care for yourself but I can't really tell from here about the day to day stuff, that's on you. So, forget the car, it's history, if you are able to get up and walk out of there make a viable plan.. The nursing home staff won't help you because you are income to them. Get on the internet, the phone, seek out and apply to every agency that could provide housing for your situation. You will need to find transportation to the interviews to prove you are able, seems to me you can do this.

In Florida there are mobile home parks and people rent a mobile home, and can have a nurse come by if you need one to check your vitals from time to time or suggest a special diet. You'd also be able at a cost to have someone buy your groceries for you or clean your place.

And then there are mobile home parks that have single rentals and other kinds and are like an ALF and the other part of the park are Nursing facilities. So one would kind of graduate up as they need more services.

The only thing I could say is to determine where you want to go and then switch your check over to them. Or make an arrangement with Section 8 to make your payment or part payment where you go. Some times you need someone to do the legwork for you. And sometimes it requires a temporary Power of Attorney to accomplish things, a person you choose, and list the things you need done by them, and you just do a new one and that eliminates your sister from being your Power of Attorney if the POA's cross duties. Ask an attorney.

Talk with one of those mobile home parks. You'd need one that's set up for assisting since they do require you pitch in like for a skirt or tiedowns or a ramp but if it's already set up for assisting then those things will be in place already. It's your disability check so you can send it where you want it to go however if it's a small amount then it would be difficult to afford a place without government assistance. So first find out from your Department of Elder Affairs (your state, or federal) which places would take you.

Did you sign any documents when you became a resident at the nursing home. Like does your sister have power of attorney of you? If she does not then this could good for your reason.

1. Your sister could be abusing you financially. There is a thing called elderly abuse or fraud. If you suspect your sister is taking advantage of your situation. I think you should call your local police department and find out if they can assist you on this.

2. While you are trying to get your life back. Try to have medical clearance from your doctors and any OT or PT therapists review your situation. Are you able to function in an apartment with minimum supervision or care. Showering, Dressing, Walking, Toileting, and etc.

3. What kind of assistance can you get in your apartment such as companion to help you with daily living tasks. Can you have a visiting nurse visit you in your home daily or weekly basis to check your vital signs.

You may want to speak with you nursing home social worker to help you know what rights you have as a patient.

I identify with your problem. I too am in a home for seniors and have no other option right now.

You are too young and should reapply to return home or to another home you can manage. Try

to get someone to take you to your state office for "Aging/Disabilities". They should be able

to direct you to the best offices to help you in this. I don't know why you're forced to stay if you

have had a complete recovery. But you need to correct this now, so you can get your SS money

once again if you choose. That 30 something you keep each month, would barely cover the

cost for a cell phone minutes. Then there are personal care products you would need. Unless

they are provided by the nursing home. Yes, you need to start living again. Get someone to

help you make the changes necessary. And good luck.

You need to talk to an attorney and tell this story to them. You are in control of your life unless you have been proven to be mentally handicap. The nursing home administrator or patient advocate should even be able to help you.

People in nursing homes CAN get better and move out. Maybe you are at that stage now but you need someone to give you legal advice.

You can change a power of attorney for healthcare by filling out a new form, changing what you want, and having it dated and notarized. Those things are not forever documents and you are the one in control of it.'

I agree with the one who said get a lawyer. Some will give an initial consultation for free. Get the POA revoked immediately! Then find out if there is an office for elder abuse in your state, taking your money is very much abuse. If there is not more to this story, your 2 sisters should be deeply ashamed for what they are doing to you.

Why does money seem to turn some people into monsters?

Can you leave the nursing home and take a cab to an attorneys office? Do some research in the yellow pages and find an attorney that deals with wills, ect. One office visit to get his advice won't be too much money.

I'm so sorry. It hurts to have family that act like your enemy. I know.

Power of Attorney is not the same as guardianship. You have control over who or if you need someone to have that power. If you are truly able to take care of yourself, call an attorney and explain the situation and remove your sister as Power of Attorney. I do not know how any nursing home could keep you if you have control of your own life and are able to care for yourself. You must be honest, however.

Unless you gave them Power of Attorney, they're stealing from you outright. That shouldn't be tolerated.

If you're getting Social Security disability, and they're Representative Payees under such, they must report annually to Social how they're spending your money (I was designated Rep. Payee before my mother was unable to look after her own affairs, and had to account to Social how her money was spent. She was in a (decent) nursing home. I would never think of taking advantage of her finances.

You need a lawyer. Fast.

Sorry this happened to you.

Good luck

Addendum: Just read your additional info. Why is it when people have siblings, and when you need them, they turn their backs/push you aside; meanwhile friends/strangers try to come to your aid? I'm an Only...and everytime I hear of a situation like this, or similar, it makes me sad...I've heard too many stories of siblings not reaching out. They need to be careful how they treat you, because maybe one day they'll end up in the same situation. I hope things work out for you.

For starters...you need to be deemed mentally incompetent by a physician (and in most cases, more than one physician) in order for a DPOA to be able to "put you" in a nursing home...and you sound anything BUT incompetent. Secondly, if she only has medical DPOA, your SS checks shouldn't be negotiable or endorsed by her, as that is a financial issue and not a medical one. You need to be using whatever computer you have access to, to be looking for a VERY good Social Security/disability attorney ASAP. And while you're at it...you might want to contact Adult Protective Services (website) and let them in on what's happening to you. No one at the nursing home is going to help you because they're paying their bills with YOUR state monies.