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My girlfriend comitted suicide?

I have been with my girlfriend for the past 7 years since 2005. We are very close emotionally.She has stopped working since April of 2011.Her resignation was due to depression.A little more details on her depression. During that period of time, i had a fling with another girl.This girl got jealous and started to call her,saying that she stole her husband etc.She was hopping mad and has since developed mild depression.I was the only one in her life and she was my only one too.To cut the story short,as recent as Nov 2012,she ended her life by overdosing on prescription drugs.It was horrible.I met her only 2 days earlier.I saw her in life and blood on a Wednesday and by Monday i had to collect her bones and skull.She was cremated.I have missed her ever since.To this day i still cry.There are far too many memories thats been embedded in my brain,In fact,i feel guilty for quarreling with her on Wednesday.I do not know how to proceed with my life.All this while,i only had her for emotional support.Now that is gone,i find that my life is rather meaningless too.Every morning,i keep waking up and wondering how i would have prevented her suicide.When i am alone,i tend to cry to myself.To some extent i even shout.Please advise me on what to do next.I have heard lines like....Please move on...it is over...etc etc.

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  • 8 years ago
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    You need a good dressing down.

    I have clinical depression, and if my boyfriend cheated on me with some skank, there's a good chance I'd do the same thing. It's common sense that you shouldn't cheat on anyone, but someone with depression? That's f*cking vile and disgusting. I know this sounds cruel, but if you had not been a cheating schmuck, she might still be here.

    She was the only one in your life and the only emotional support you had? You should have valued her much more than you did; clearly, you never really loved her, or you would not have done that to her.

    And you were the only person she had? How dare you cheat on her! Again, absolutely disgusting. It's no wonder why some women think all men are pigs - you're doing nothing to prove that stereotype wrong. Think about it: she was depressed, and the only good person in her life betrayed her in the most cruel, heartless way possible. What were you thinking?! If you're wondering how you could have prevented her suicide, THERE'S your answer. Don't f*cking cheat.

    The sadness you feel is nothing to the hell that she went through. I hope you're happy with yourself. You dug your grave, and hers, too. I feel so horrible for that poor woman, may she rest in peace. At least now she does not have to be miserable because of your cheating *ss.

    Source(s): I have no sympathy for you. My stepdad killed himself 4 years ago because my mother ran around like Tiger Woods.
  • 8 years ago

    You will never unload your guilt so why not put it to good use warning others of potential consequences in situations like this?

    Her death could save a life or two or three. Who knows.

    Pass your story on, learn about depression and the signs of a potential suicide.

    Educate others.

    Above all don't wallow in this depression. Get to work helping others avoid the mistake you made.

  • 8 years ago

    I am really sorry for your loss, this sounds all really painful. Try not to forget her, but to focus on other things: your passions. What do you like to do? If you like music or playing an instrument, focus deeply on that. You like reading, then read. Slowly, you will notice that your girlfriend's memory is still an important piece of your life, but that it's not that painful anymore. Most of all, smile, laugh as much as you can, don't let sadness take over or you might end up like her: depressive. Yes, take advice from the people who tell you to "move on"... Move on, but do it slowly and softly.

    Again, sorry for your loss. I hope this helps.

  • 8 years ago

    First let me say i sorry to hear about your loss, but you must not blame yourself or feel sorry for yourself. She done this to herself, she kill herself because she handle what was going on with her, and she was one who walk away with your heart and didn't ever say goodbye. Again i sorry to hear about your loss and it good to mourn for a period but after a couple of months you have to continue your life but living a health and whole. You can't not let what happen to your friend bring you down you are a stronger person you have to over come what is holding you back and get back your feet and put your walk with your head up. Sometimes thing happen for a reason and people came into our life for season and when there time is up they leave us and some time without ever saying goodbye. And yes we all get upset and cry and get mad again, but we all have to be strong and go on without them. I know it hard, but it ok because you have to the Lord or what believe (high power) to carry you and help make a way for you to continue you life without them. But if your like make maybe plant a tree and name after them, get a pet and well i sure you get the point. Anyway! I saying to you is you "you can give up" you are better then this, you are stronger then this, this is not you time to die yet because you God is not done with you yet. There is a reason why you are still living and it might be because you are a good person who can help other like yourself. Don't give up now so you had a set back but it not a set up and life go on get over your loss and go on and not out.

  • 5 years ago

    you are able to not be at the same time that's advantageous yet you nonetheless could desire to attempt to be her pal. it rather is troublesome once you adore somebody and that they do no longer love you decrease back. uncertain how previous she is however the greater youthful you get it rather is greater solid to recover from somebody. So in case you are able to desire to bypass to her communicate and clarify that in simple terms face it you recognize we actually can not make it as a pair yet i'm nonetheless your pal. I advise who might comprehend her greater desirable than you? you're able to in no way have sufficient acquaintances. manage her like what you will possibly want to be dealt with like if it had take place to you. I desire you the very ultimate! help her recover from you and pass on.

  • 8 years ago

    I have to answer this quickly as I'm about to watch an episode of Grey's Anatomy. Maybe learn not to cheat o

  • 8 years ago

    Call Hospice near you. They offered us counseling for free when my father in law passed away. Sorry to hear of your loss.

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    What you do is get some counseling, to learn the cognitive and emotional skills to deal with this.

  • Kelly
    Lv 5
    8 years ago

    Very sorry for your loss.. I really think you need to speak with a therapist or even a grief support group-- they can help you..

  • ?
    Lv 7
    8 years ago

    My dear friend,my suggestion is to read a book titled 'many lives,many masters' by Dr.Brian Weiss of America.And GITA(full name is BHAGVAD GITA. Surf net for it. Even you can watch TV channel Life after life. Please remember that you can not turn the clock back.

    Source(s): I am a counsellor.
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