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Can someone please tell me if i am right and how can i solve this?
Hi,a new guy has entered my class and he is a bad influence at my best friends(i've known them for more than 8 years).He is a smoker and he smokes weed.he is making my best friends believe that smoking and drugs are not bad and smoking is against stress.I am trying to tell my friends about his his influence but they say:nahh its nothing,and they want to start smoking.I think he is even trying to make my friends against me,cause my best friends behaviour has changed since he came.Can someone please tell me if its me that im jealous(i really don't think i am cause i never had this problem before),and if not how can i turn things around by making my friends to see who is wrong and who is right?We are like family and thats why i wanna protect their health and the new guy didn't like me since the begining cause i was the only one who didn't think he was cool by smoking.Please someone give me an answer!!!
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- 8 years agoFavorite Answer
You may wish to consider a different tact. First of all, I'd set the stage as to where I'd have my talk with him. Away from the usual places where he feels "cool." Perhaps having more people around other than yourself. People who gather around him in all seriousness--preferable people he respects.
Your friend is not making his decisions on real information. There are sources on the Internet that show actual pictures of lungs that had smoked; pictures of people disabled from smoking related causes. You can find statistics online for smoking related diseases and fatalities worldwide. You may also wish to show him how he is regarded an idiot by the tobacco industry itself, its corruption making billions off of decades of human suffering the industry knew it caused.
Don't get caught up in superficial, circular arguments. Stay focused on the intent of your discussion. You're there because you love him, he's entitled to do what he wants, but, not before he has all information he needs to make an intelligent decision. After hearing all the facts, he can continue to smoke, but, you won't be around to watch him kill himself.
- CheerChicaLv 48 years ago
If you're friend won't listen to you, you've done your best. As a best friend, it is your job to be a form of encouragement, and give your friend good advice. However you are not their parent and can't force them to do some something they do not want to. Sit her down. Tell her it's serious. Play her the song "otherside" by macklemore. It's about drug use. He says "weeds not a drug? That's denial". He is a former drug user. He is letting everyone know that all drugs have a damaging effect. And although weed may be helpful in some ways, it Definetly has downsides and isn't worth the risk. So many people become drug addicts. They try something once and are hooked for the rest of their life. Weed however isn't as addictive as say cocaine or LSD. There are people that smoke, only on occasion. However, you can never be sure if she will be one of those people. Let her know that you've been there for her, and that she doesn't know this new guy well enough to pick him over you.
- 8 years ago
NO HES A BAD INFLUENCE. TELL YOUR FRIENDS TO STAY AWAY. POT GETS YOU NOWHERE IN LIFE!!! i think you should just talk to them about it and tell them how bad you think this guy is. If their really your best friends they would understand where youre coming from. Youre the only one who is being smart about this guy.
Much love.
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