Why do people think marriage is about sex?

Yes, sex is very important, but it's a tiny part of marriage. Good sex is the lubricant that allows your differences to seem insignificant.

Mutual respect, trust, caring and helping each other in all aspects are the most important. Commitment and starting a family grows out of these things.

I'm 19 too and i feel the same way. People should get married because you love someone and you want to be devoted to them for forever. If you are gunna marry someone and have any doubt in your mind that you may divorce them someday then you shouldn't marry them cuz i think you should marry the person you are head over heels in love with. But sex is apart of it but if thats all the marriage is about then that's not right. I'm still a virgin and i want to wait till marriage cuz i wanna give myself to my wife someday to show her that i only want her. I don't need to have sex with a bunch of girls to prove that i'm a man. I know guys that have slept around and they are literaly complete idiots and if they got a girl pregnant they would run in a heartbeat. That is not a real man.. But it's really just society that has twisted people into thinking that a relationship is all about sex when it is not.

You are right marriage is based on many many things, but sex is a foundation piece of all of that. When the physical side of the relationship is great, all other things pale in significance to it. A man is designed to enjoy a lot of sex and when he is getting that it is easier for him to listen, easier for him to understand, easier for him to be compassionate, and passionate about the other aspects of the relaionship. I can too say that when he is all of these things, his wife is more than willing to be intimate with him, because he does take the time to listen etc.

I have been very happily married for many many years, and can say that a marriage is not 50 /50 but 100 / 100 percent committment, there are ups and down, go and bad times. But do not underestimate the importance of the intimate part of a marriage.

I have a couple friends who are very Christian. In my experience they want to get married really young, because otherwise they cannot have sex (one just got married at 18, only knowing her husband a couple of months) and will not be real "woman". Seems ridiculous to me, I really believe in marriage. I only want to be married once to the right man, and I do believe that premarital sex is completely fine. I rather get married when I am 30 and be sure that he is the right man for me. Rather because I want to lose my virginity.

Sex releases chemicals in the body that help to create and sustain the attraction. It is not everything but without it the marriage will fail. As I have seen on here before it is like air, it goes unnoticed until it is gone. Then it means everything. I have to ask why is it that Sex is the only thingnyounare supposed to wait until marriage for if it is not important?