Would I be considered a Gray A Asexual?

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I noticed throughout my life I've rarely  felt sexual attraction to other people. It's rare that I ever have sexual fantasies about actual people I've known in real life. Pornography rarely turns me on too. 

However I do find that I sometimes do  have sexual thoughts & fantasies about certain situations. Like bondage or BDSM like activities.  But not specific people come to mind and sometimes I don't fantasize about actual intercourse.  Usually the person in my fantasies are made up in my mind. I don't feel the need to have sex or seek it out. But I do have desires at times.  I think it's more emotional then psychical though. 

I may find people attractive or hot, but thoughts of actually having sex with them is rare. :O 

Would this be considered a Gray A Asexual?

JPane · Accepted Answer

OP: "I noticed throughout my life I've rarely felt sexual attraction to other people."

So you do experience sexual attraction from time to time. In that case, you probably aren't asexual. For the record, asexuals can still have a sex drive (physical desire for sex; not to be confused with sexual orientation), but prefer to satiate it through masturbation.

Here is an FAQ from the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN). It should address any questions you have about asexuality: http://www.asexuality.org/home/general.html

Since you fall somewhere between sexual and asexual, you may very well be Gray-A. Gray-A's are essentially people who are not asexual, but have "asexual-like" traits. Such people include those who...

• do not normally experience sexual attraction, but do experience it sometimes
• experience sexual attraction, but a low sex drive
• experience sexual attraction and drive, but not strongly enough to act on them
• can enjoy and desire sex, but only under very limited and specific circumstances

Basically, if you don't fit the basic definition of asexuality, but find that one (or more) of the above-mentioned bullet points perfectly describes you, then feel free to identify as Gray-A.

Here is more info on the Gray-A orientation: http://asexuality.org/wiki/index.php?title=Gray-A

Keep in mind that there's also the possibility that you are just not a very sexual person. Sexuality consists of a series of spectra, and these labels don't even begin to address this complexity.

blue ocean · Answer

I think you are Asexual and there is nothing wrong about it.  You can go to ASEXUAL,ORG. And the define yourself who you are don't let the people define your preference. Every body can be wrong but if you define yourself; thats the truth.

Silence Dogood · Answer

No.  lol, what's with all these pointless terms?

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