Am I a lesbian? Can't stop obsessing and worrying?

Ok, first of all, no. You are not, by what you have said, homosexual. This is normal at your age to have confusing thoughts/feelings. What you are describing is the reason there is so much confusion around teen's sexual identity. You can see women as beautiful, attractive, whatever and not want to be with them! If you have no desire to be in a relationship or have sexual contact with the female sex, and have those wants and needs with males, then you are straight. My husband asked me just last week if he thought this woman walking down the street was hot (insert eye roll here), I answered yes, but that doesn't make me any less straight. As you grow older you will get more comfortable being who you are. Don't obsess over it and these feelings will pass. One day you will think of these feelings and realize at that point that you are comfortable with who you are. It just takes time, and being a teen is so difficult in so many ways. just know that you will get through it, we all do!

Perhaps homosexuals are a new phenomenon to her? Meaning, she's heard about them in the past, read about them, probably even gossiped about gays...but now, she's found out that we really do exist, we're not harmful, and we're more then likely not interested in her. Has she befriended any of them? I encourage that --- not the surface level work environment friendship, but getting drinks, coffee, going out, dinners, etc. If she can see us as we live (just like her, you, and anybody else, but she doesn't really truly understand this) then perhaps her obsession will subside. Then again, she herself may have some bi/homo tendancies she wants to explore and is looking for an "in" into the community. Unfortunately it's not going to happen overnight. I hope she finds a balance and understanding within herself sooner then later for you and the rest of your coworker's peace of mind. She'll get there eventually, hopefully!

You seem to be bi-curious, bisexual at the most. Don't worry so much. You don't have to label yourself. Just experiment around a bit, find out what you like. Most teenagers experiment with their sexuality and there's nothing wrong with that. I don't think you're a lesbian if you have all these feelings for men, and not women. Quit pressuring and worrying yourself. You have your whole life to figure out exactly what you want. Just let it flow freely and soon enough, you'll realize exactly what you want. Either way, always know that there's nothing wrong with being bisexual or lesbian. Always love and accept yourself regardless.

By what you've said it sounds like a no, maybe you're bi? But what's most important is that you remember whether your heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, pansexual or even asexual, love is love.

The only way u could tell if you are lesbine or bisexual u need to have sex with a girl and see if u like it or not and that will tell u if u like girls same exacted thing with guys .

Yeah, definitely OCD

I doubt that you are lesbian based on what you have presented.

It's probably some type of OCD phase.

Perhaps you are bi-curious? You will never know until you experiment.