Decided to change myself and go the "jerk" route to get girls. I've started but need more advice?

I would be considered a fairly attractive girl, and I would never turn my attention to a guy who is a jerk, especially to me.

My boyfriend would not be considered "hot," but he was a complete gentleman to me, and it didn't take long before I became attracted to him. We started dating when I was a few weeks away from being 17--he was my first (and still only) boyfriend. He has been the only guy I've had sexual relations with (because, like you, I don't want to be somebody's seconds, so I'm more willing to be with a virgin rather than a man whore). I've been asked out by dozens of guys (some quite popular, or good-looking, some not), and I rejected every single one of them because they were jerks, narcissistic, or just perverted.

So, sorry, but you're wrong when it comes to the idea that acting like a jerk will improve your chances with EVERY girl. Don't get me wrong, a lot of my girl friends do actually date a lot of jerks, but that's because it's hard to find a gentleman these days. These girls may date those guys, but they constantly complain about their boyfriends, and usually their relationships don't last (constant makeups and breakups), or I end up seeing one or the other being cheated on at some point.

However, since you're certain that you want to do this, I'll try to help. As for your plan and list of improvements, here are my personal opinions and suggestions for each one:

1. If a guy acts uninterested in me, I take it as a sign that he is UNINTERESTED in me, and I give up and move on to a guy that is. Also, a girl is not going to chase after a guy unless she already has a crush on him. (Suggestion: You may want to rethink this one. My boyfriend acted as if he had interest in another girl to keep me interested, and I was close to writing him off for good before he came out with the truth. So, maybe you should just drop hints until she notices the attention that you're giving her? If you force it, she'll think that you're a creep.)

2. Disregarding her opinions will make her feel stupid, yes. So, when she needs the positive attention that you're not giving her, who will she go to? Not you. Girls like to see a guy who has a different opinion, and can still say, "But, yours is still okay." Not, "I'M okay with your opinion," because girls generally have a low-self esteem, and like to feel as though their ideas are adequate, to say the least, and not just tolerated.

3. Being aggressive can make a girl, or another guy, be aggressive towards you, so be prepared for that. I like a strong guy--it is attractive. But, since guys are generally stronger than me, anyway, I just like to see them help me carry things, or have them open a jar for me. Most girls don't like to be manhandled, and most girls do not like to see their guys getting into fights. Try to take into consideration that girls don't want muscle-heads, they just want a guy who isn't a pushover, and is confident enough to stick up for himself.

4. Girls do get jealous. A lot. Some may want you when they see you talking to another girl, and some may see you flirting with all of these other girls and turn away thinking, "Ugh. What a player. I better not get involved with him." Really, though, you want a girl to feel special compared to other girls, so when they need to feel better about themselves, they come to you, and you have a chance to get closer.

5. Girls do like nice cars, generally. My boyfriend has a '90 Chrysler Lebaron, though, and I don't care. Lol.

6. Working out is good. Girls tend to like athletic guys. Working out also shows that you do something productive during the day. As for the belittling part: to me, when I see someone belittling another person, I think, "Pathetic." I think that when a guy sticks up for someone against the group, it shows courage and confidence. You also have to make sure that, if you're doing this, the person that you're belittling doesn't end up getting the best of you, or you'll look like a fool. Also, instead of just being plain mean about it, try to make a joke, instead. Girls like to laugh, and it makes them open up more, as they feel more comfortable with a guy that can make them laugh.

7. I wouldn't date a guy who smoked cigarettes, or weed, personally. It seems that more girls are smoking these days, though, so they may approach you for a cigarette. -_-

Anyway, hope this helps. Good luck. You're going to need it. It takes a lot of work trying to impress others by being somebody that you're not. Hopefully, you'll find yourself a good girl who likes you regardless, even if you are a jerk to her. :)

Since you made a big decision and everything, although I don't agree with it, I think it's fine that you're trying to act like a jerk, but really, don't cross the line with some things. I don't think the "dismiss all her ideas, views and beliefs as really stupid and tell her mine are better" idea is bad, because it'll leave an impression on her, leaving her to think about you, whether it's good or bad. Same for some of the others. The part that I really don't agree with is the cigar and weed part. Not only will it make girls deviate away from you, but if you ever change your mind and decide you don't want to do this anymore, you'll be left with an addiction, a reason to be jailed, and an unhealthy body. Everything else, as far as I'm concerned, won't affect your life ten years from now (unless you find a partner). This alone, however, could potentially ruin your life, and it's not worth it. Like I said before, I'm not in favor of these kind of strategies at all, because of various reasons, but hey, I'm assuming you didn't post this so you could hear a lecture. I already gave you one, so I think that's enough. Just one thing: You ARE prepared to go and throw away your entire social life that you've built up so far, right? Also, be prepared for some unstable or uncomfortable relationships. I know I didn't really give any advice, but anyways, whether you give up on the jerk plan or nice plan, good luck. Just don't treat your girlfriend like dirt once you get one.

Girls do not hate gentlemen! Have you ever thought that maybe the girls you think are ladies just aren't really that nice to begin with?? Look dude, I am living proof that girls do like gentlemen, bc I married one! Sounds kind of cliche' but I never really like guys in high school. Let me rephrase that... I would like guys and then I found out they just wanted to get in my pants, so I just left it alone. I met my now husband when I was 16 (almost 17). He was my first kiss, my first everything. Before I met him I thought something was wrong with me too. I even thought about becoming a nun (silly now that I look back on it, not the nun part, but the giving up on love thing). He is my equal and my best friend. And if you change yourself into a douchebag then you're just going to attract trashy skanky girls, but if that's what you want then go for it I guess.... It sounds like you just want a real romance, which everyone wants that deep down. For real dude, you don't find love, it finds you. I know you're unhappy, but keep your head up. Patience is a virtue and it doesn't come easy, but if you can be patient it will pay you with the ultimate gift. Hope this helped! It's not you, you just haven't met the right girl. Don't lose hope!

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if girls you are into don't like gentlemen, than forget them. Stay true to what you are taught and just be yourself. Then, you'll find the girl of your dreams.

stop smoking!!!!!!!!! the smell makes me gag and its totally bad for you. and at this rate with the smoking, you may never get a gf bcuz u are literally killing yourself. noone finds that hot. and honestly, have a good sense of humor. that will go farther than any car. and honestly, you are making yourself look like an a****** and noone wants that so blow me if you dont wanna hear it but i am right and you, well you are going to end up an old lonely man with lung cancer.

Honestly, that kind of behavior will lead you to getting laid and that is about it. If that is what you are looking for, fine. But if you "play" the jerk role in a real relationship it will get ugly, she will treat you poorly, you will be cheated on, and it will end bad.

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lose the cigars and weed

at least be a healthy jerk

maybe those girls were not for u

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