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Need dating advice from women?

I am a senior in high school. Due to being pressured by my parents to be the first person in my family to go to college I have always avoided dating or even going out with friends. I have never asked out a girl, but I have been asked out on several occasions (which I would always turn down).

Now that my hard work has paid off and I will be going to college for free, I am looking forward to dating in college. But, I have no dating experience. I am not socially awkard, I know how to socialize...but school and sports always came first.

So, any dating advice would be appreciated. Like...what makes a woman attracted to a guy, what is the "best" or "right" way to ask someone out, where to go on dates, etc.

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  • 8 years ago

    It sounds like you are confident so that's a good starting point. I always think the best ways of asking girls out is a friendly approach. No cheesy pick up lines etc.

    Depending on how you know a girl pretty much determines your approach. For example if when at collage a girl in your class catches your eye, it's easy to strike up conversation with her as you already have a common ground. Start with 'hi' and a smile when you see her around and grow from there.

    If you just see a girl you think is hot around campus but you have no reason to talk to her, that's when a bit more courage is needed just to approach her and ask her out. I always think a simple ' hi I've seen you around campus, you have such a pretty smile I'd love to take you out sometime' or something along those lines. Friendly and confident.

    As for places keep it casual in my opinion. Dinner on the first date is too intense. If you find you don't click you are stuck with her through 3 courses. A coffee, a beer, something like that. Easy going and relaxed.

    Also I think girls will really like that you have put off dating to concentrate on your studies. That's definately a plus so throw that out there on your date. Good luck :)

  • 8 years ago

    I would find it totally weird if a guy told me he had to search for dating advice on Yahoo Answers, so I would avoid doing that.

  • 8 years ago

    Dating in college can be difficult. Make sure you get involved in some sort of group or club it always makes things easier. If you have a common room in your dorm building hanging out in there a lot you can meet a lot of cool people. Don't be afraid to walk up to someone after a class and give them your number, say "Hey if you wanna get together and study sometime, here's my number" It puts the ball in their court and makes them feel good that you make the first move but not too bold of a mood. You can actually get together and study or if you think it might go somewhere after doing that or talking for a while ask them to go out. You can do the typical dinner and a movie or you and plan something better. Girls love being taken out to do something they haven't before. Depending on where you are going to college will limit or extend your ideas for dates. Walking around downtown after getting dinner is sometimes nice. See if there are outdoor things to do that don't cost a lot. Going to a park can always be fun, who doesn't love to swing? Going to the college pool for a swim is another one. Ice skating? sledding? even just watching a good movie in your dorm can be fun. Don't be afraid to ask if she has any ideas either. If you wanna be cute show up for the date with a flower.

    Depending on financially situations dating can be tough for college. Although since you are going to college for free???? If you decide to work you will probably have more money than any girl would.(we tend to spend any money we have on clothes, books, and food) It's always nice for a girl to see that you want to pay for her but if it becomes a constant thing and it bothers you just ask about going "dutch" sometime (you pay for you, she pays for herself) Just make sure she knows ahead of time if you have been paying so she knows to have some money on her.

    The best way to ask someone out is to be direct no girl really likes it when they have to try and figure out if you like them or not. Girls always like to be "chased" as well so if they say something along the lines of "I'll have to check my schedule" or "maybe,yea" make sure to watch their body language when they say it(obviously don't stare at their body) but look for crossed arms(closed off or indecisive), how relaxed or tight their shoulders are( feeling stressed or comfortable). If they look at you directly in the eye or have their eyes everywhere. Remember they could just be shy too so if you don't get an answer right away or anything. Try asking again after a few days (3-4) they could just want to see if you really want to go out with them. Try picking out a specific date and time to ask them out it makes it harder to say no if they know exactly when you want to go out. My personal opinion, unless they are genuine when they tell you they can't that day, don't ask more than 2-3 times. There are lots of girls out there who are nice.

    I hope that helps with anything you wanted to know. Try and make sure you're genuine when asking a girl out and make your intentions known. AND NO MEANS NO when it comes to somethings, kay? girls almost always end up with the nice guy over the over demanding one.

  • 8 years ago

    Ok. One tip: don't listen to "Lady Fafa". Because based on all her other answers on other questions...

    ...She's a ******* *****.

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