Boyfriends 21st! NOT INVITED?

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It's my boyfriends birthday in a couple of weeks and he's organised a weekend away with a few of his guy mates. I am doing something else with him a couple of days later and that was all fine. Until yesterday I found out that two of his girl friends are going, including the person he lost his virginity to! They will be sleeping at a friends uni house as well where there will be girls. I asked why I wasn't invited and he said I cause problems when I'm drunk. I'm not going to lie and I have started a couple of arguments on nights out but I certainly wouldn't do this on his 21st birthday! Am I right to be annoyed that he will be spending 2 nights with other girls or shall I just let him get on with it? I've always invited him to all of my birthdays where it's just been my friends!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Tell him congratulations for the threesome he will be having. You're fucked, actually the exact opposite of fucked.

? · Answer

you answered your own question.
"hes having a weekend away with some friends"
well no offence, but most boyfriends like to have their friends and girlfriends seperate, theres nothing wrong with it, the worst thing you could do is start an argument with him because of this, would you always want him to remember that his 21st was ruined because you argued with him?

Anonymous · Answer

There is no way in hell my guy would be allowed to have other women at his party and I wasn't especially if they're sleeping there and there is no way in hell I'd allow a woman he's slept with to be there at all. He either loves you and your with him or he doesn't and your not. This situation is black and white there is no grey area. Do not tolerate this if you do you will be setting yourself up for more of this treatment. If he doesn't get it then you know where you stand in this relationship. Good luck!

wiltrout · Answer

ok if he lives then you you shouldnt were a topic for him.you're the only excellent for him in each and every occassion yet appears like you aren't from now on.If he have idea you reason issues at the same time as drink than he could only appreciate you and do his B-day with only adult males.It appears like he doesnt recognize a thanks to appreciate a lady he loves.communicate with him and deal with what is going on.If he thinks you reason issues and the different ladies dont then he's nit adequate for you.

Pigfat · Answer

let's put it this way, because you are a bad drunk, he doesn't want you around to make problems and trouble. Learn to drink and don't do trouble when you are drunk if you want to get invited to his next birthdays.

Anonymous · Answer

Seems there are far deeper issues in your relationship than an invitation... (or lack thereof..)

Don't be a jealous person about it...
Simply take it at face value...

Anonymous · Answer

I agree with John, leave him be.

Like you said, you've organized something so you'll get your chance to be with him then. You don't want to come across as a crazy, jealous girlfriend who ruins his guys trip, and those girls are probably just "one of the lads" so don't sweat.

KirstyJ · Answer

I'd let him have his lads out if it was just lads.

But if theres girls too, and hes not letting you go.... sounds fishy to me!

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Jonathen · Answer

Seduce him with a bag of cheetos.

Anonymous · Answer

Simple: If he can not handle you at your worst, he doesn't deserve you at your best!

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Boyfriends 21st! NOT INVITED?

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