Platonic relationships?

K, this is the way ALL relationships work, so believe this because it's what IS happening to YOU right now. With all strong friendships and sexual relationships, there is ALWAYS one who is the lead and the other the follower. Ideally it can come to a balance, but that doesn't last. If you can keep close to that balance, that means your friendship or relationship will be a long and happy one. The way to gain the 'lead', or the one who is wanted more, is to withdraw a little, have a relationship with someone else. Not a full blown sexual relationship and not a relationship that causes PROBLEMS, but a little relationship like your friend is having NOW with her friend. So have another friend and get a little close with them, this may work. Other things that you can do is have a few drinks(if you're old enough) in your home with her and after you loosen up you'll bond a little more. I have to tell you that it's not really healthy for you to feel that dependent on someone elses feelings, in fact it borders on creepy. Sorry, but that's the truth. Emotional blackmail is something that I hate, and I really don't hate many things. But you are primed for emotional blackmail, to give it or to take it. You are obsessing on this person, and that is what the problem is. NEVER obsess over anyone or anything. It will ALWAYS lead to bad feelings or deeds. This is the truth. So take stock of yourself and regain control over your feelings. I love you, honey and I'm not trying to make you feel bad, but you CAN'T feel this way over someone, you must love yourself too, and take care of yourself. If you can't, then it IS a psychological problem and you may need to talk to a therapist to find out WHY you are obsessing.