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My friend won't stop listening to KPop?
Many of you, I'm sure, are familiar with the viral music video Gangnam Style (if you aren't - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9bZkp7q19f0)
Well, this is just to help you become a little familiar with my problem.
My best (and sort of only) friend WILL NOT STOP listening to/talking about KPop. The video above is only the tiniest inkling of what she's listening to. There are DOZENS of these bands - and most of them consist of alien-looking boys and very young, very skinny females. Again, all just to familiarize you.
This all, to my knowledge, started in July this summer, we're both 18.
Not only is it driving me up a wall (I really do feel very terrible for saying that, but it is), but it's also making me concerned for her. I don't think she's listened to any of her REAL favorite bands in a very long time.
Mind you, these songs that these MANUFACTURED bands put out are nothing but computerized sounds and autotuned voices. They are also the most incredibly annoying songs I've ever heard in my entire life - very high pitched, bubblegummy, incredibly poor English phrases injected in there that don't even make any sense!!!!!!!! (IN ONE SONG, A BOY BAND MEMBER SAID "I REALLY WANNA TOUCH MYSELF" - THEY OBVIOUSLY CAN'T GET ANY TRANSLATORS EITHER!!!)
I almost feel bad about saying these things because I know how much she loves it, but we'll just be talking about something completely different and she'll say something like "so-and-so is so hot i would bear his children why am I not asian" and she'll send me up-close derp faces they do in the middle of their videos. Her tumblr is almost entirely KPop and Korean drama stars, when it used to be....not that.
It's seriously becoming a problem - when we're in her car, she'll sometimes ask me if I want to play my music, but it's usually only very brief (30 minutes max, we ride around a lot) and then she'll put the KPop back on.
It makes me feel selfish for feeling these things - but seriously, we spend almost every weekend together and probably 75% of the time it's KPop time.
I also think I'm her only friend who "tolerates" it. She has other friends who listen to KPop, and she has other friends who don't. She's told me before that when she talks to her friends who don't listen to it, they just sit there and don't say anything and look at her like she's stupid. (WHICH SHE ISN'T!!! SHE'S A VERY SMART PERSON!!!) So I feel like if I said something it would just hurt her feelings.
She's also said out loud multiple times "I need to stop terrorizing my friends with all this Asian ****", but she hasn't backed down AT ALL. So I'm very confused.
I'm not asking for a solution - just maybe someone who understands and who I can vent to a little bit (even though it seems I've done that already) or talk to.
If you need more reference for how irritating it is - I'm posting more links below
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fhseD2tRLUY
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LUrUPzLm5SI
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cUgReo37ECw
I DON'T CARE IT'S TOO MUCH INFORMATION - JUST HELP ME
She's been listening to KPop since she was 11 - it was revamped this summer when she showed it to me for the first time.
4 Answers
- 8 years agoFavorite Answer
I had a pretty similar situation... I met my friend 4 years ago, and although she was already into asian culture (mainly japanese, like she loved Memories of a Geisha and mangas) she had lots of other interests. Then, about a year ago, she started going crazy about all these J-Pop bands, and then K-Pop (which I find even worse). We were getting more and more distant, because we could barely talk anymore, just like you - I was really sad, but couldn't stand it. Eventually, for a different reason but that was still linked to the fact that we were less and less close, we fought. For a month or so, I refused to speak to her. At that point, she started making new friends. Friends that loved j-pop and k-pop, like her. I missed her though, a lot. After graduation, I thought I would never see her again, but unexpectedly, during the holidays she recontacted me and we started seeing each other again. And it was great! She had friends with whom she could share her passion, so she didn't "need" me for that anymore. And although I slightly missed being her "only" friend (yes yes, I know, that's wrong), our relationship was much healthier and we started to enjoy each other's company again. And we met halfway: she made me watch asian dramas which I know like watching with her a lot, and I got her into some of my stuff. Now we're both in different Universities, but I still see her often.
Now I'm not saying you should fight with your friend or anything, but it's impossible (and wrong) to try to make her "stop" loving what she does. Basically, she needs to find some kind of community that shares her passion - it can be on the internet, as well. I know my friend has this whole network of k-pop lovers through facebook. And also, look/listen at what she shows you. You don't have to like it or even pretend to: I find the music RIDICULOUS, with all their silly hairdos and artificial choreographies and she knows it - I make jokes about her idols all the time and we laugh so much! But if ever someone else teases her about the k-pop in a mean way in front of her or behind her back, I defend her.
If she's a good friend, it's not that terrible - I felt like I had lost her forever to K-pop, but in a way I believe she also needs someone to talk about something OTHER thank K-pop, you know?
A long answer for a long question :)
- 8 years ago
You can do what she does. I'm sure there are artists that you like. Talk about them the same amount of time she does. If she starts getting annoyed, tell her that that's exactly how she is and maybe she'll stop. If it doesn't annoy her, then be straight up and ask her not to talk about them so much.
- Anonymous8 years ago
It will all just go away soon enough gangnam style is over and she will soon be sick of it however harlem shake is the new gangnam style so make her not watch it or you will go insane.
