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katie asked in Social SciencePsychology · 8 years ago

I feel like an outcast as if i dont belong?

My friends i genuinely love and constantly never hesitate to do anything for them i go out of my way to help them but still at the end of the day i feel like an outcast among them ..they are too busy to notice me or care for me or make me feel wanted ...its like i am alone in a crowded room...which makes me wonder is there something wrong with me? can time perhaps fix the situation? can i do anything change something abt myself for them to appreciate me? or i simply just dont belong there? i frankly sometimes feel so out of place and used & honestly i cant tell is it me or is it them ? is there something wrong with me ..am i to clingy or am i requring too much attention? please help me or i simply need a new set of friends ....

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    I've been in that situation. You need a new set of friends, I understand you may not realize it, but perhaps it's just a group u do t fit in with, when they're are other groups much more similar to you and won't treat u as an outcast and leave u out. It's sad but that's how people are as they grow older. There's nothing wrong with u we should just all accept eachither and genuinely be friends.

    Source(s): Experience
  • ?
    Lv 4
    4 years ago

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  • 8 years ago

    Sounds like depression to me. Have you spoken to a shrink? On some level everyone feels like an outcast from time to time. If you are feeling this way all the time there is more to it than rotten friends.

  • 8 years ago

    You are probably less social than most of your friends, I hang out with a group of kids at my school and I just have to be social and I'll fit in. if this is wrong, then your "friends" don't like you for some reason??Or they are really your acquaintances. If I was you I would find some other kids to hang out with and still see your other friends. You will feel better about yourself if you see more people..

    Maybe your "friends" think your just somebody they chat with at school and nothing more or are you gothic or emo.

  • ?
    Lv 7
    8 years ago

    I would be happy to answer your question, and thank you very much for responding to mine.

    You may have noticed that I hang out in the religious section most of the time...so you should know that you are going to get a Scriptural answer.

    Changing your friends will just result in the same thing with a different group of people. The problem is that you are wanting the attention from people, when only God is able to meet that need. Scripture talks a lot about the effects of focusing on ourselves, and most of what it has to say is not all that good. When we turn ourselves over to Jesus Christ, then God meets all of our needs. At least, all of the needs that we actually turn over to Him and ask Him to deal with.

    Keep in mind that God's promises for comfort, peace, and love are only for those who are reconciled to Him. That means that you must be born again, and walking with Him. If you have not yet given your life to Christ, then you must make that the first step.

    Here is how to take that step http://theromanroad.org/

    Here are a few key Scriptures that address some of your issues:

    John 14:15-18

    "If you love Me, keep My commandments and I will pray the Father, and He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever-- the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive, because it neither sees Him nor knows Him; but you know Him, for He dwells with you and will be in you. I will not leave you orphans; I will come to you.

    2Cr 6:14 Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?

    2Cr 6:15 And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever?

    2 Cor 6:16-18

    And what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For you are the temple of the living God. As God has said: "I will dwell in them And walk among them. I will be their God, And they shall be My people. Therefore "Come out from among them And be separate, says the Lord. Do not touch what is unclean, And I will receive you. I will be a Father to you, And you shall be My sons and daughters, Says the LORD Almighty."

    Psa 56:11 In God I have put my trust; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?

    Psa 118:8 It is better to trust in the LORD Than to put confidence in man.

    Jer 17:5 Thus says the LORD: "Cursed is the man who trusts in man And makes flesh his strength, Whose heart departs from the LORD.

    Jame 3:16 For where envy and self-seeking exist, confusion and every evil thing are there.

    I realize that I am preaching to myself as I post this. There are days when I am better off not even speaking to another person, and anything that I want or need, I simply talk to the Lord. Letting someone else know that there is a need can become a target for enemies.

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