Can anyone please help me with my depression?

Oh love. Listen, you've had a very hard time of it and I honestly believe things WILL get much better for you and you will lead a happy life. I'm saying that because you've reached a low point and now the only way is up.

I've battled depression too and I know you can get through it because I did.

Life throws a million problems at us and its the way we deal with it that either makes us stronger or makes things worse.

What you need is a break and to reflect, soul search. I really think free counselling from doctor which is confidential will help you greatly. They may be able to put you in touch with other mums who have gone through same thing.

What you need to do is be kind to yourself. Realise that you're one of many people who make choices that lead to situations that we don't want. You need to get yourself into a strong confident woman who is the leading lady in her life. That's what your mum and dad want but they don't know what to do. They love you and that's fact :)

You will see your girl again and I believe you will have a happy family too :) but you need to create a stronger, wiser, happier you. Sleeping with a guy so soon before you know him is going to put you in a vulnerable situation. Think rationally about the choices you made - coke never got anyone anywhere but massive well done for keeping clean.

Think of women that inspire you and watch their YouTube videos. Think of the kind of life you want visualise it and then go for it. Think of a new exciting career. Your parents will back you if they see you ambitious :)

If you maintain this you will eventually piece yourself together love I promise. Xxx

It sounds like you have had a pretty horrible year, you poor thing!

It's so easy to get caught up in drugs when things are bad because they really do make things better. Not better in the long run but at that moment when you do them, you feel like you are on another level of life where you don't need to worry about anything. What you don't probably don't realise is that you have already made a lot of progress by admitting to your parents that you have a problem and asking them for help so WELL DONE!

It's great that you want to get better without the doctors or tablets but as soon as you feel yourself spiralling downwards again, it might be worth speaking to the doctor about your options because at this moment in your life, you need to accept what help you can get.

If you have good grades then hopefully it won't take you long to find a job and once you have a bit of routine back in your life, things will really start to pick up and you can get back to your old self.

Try not to let guilt overcome you and try to look at things from different angles. If you hadn't aborted the baby and had given birth, your child wouldn't of had a normal life and you would've probably been even more consumed with guilt. I'm sorry if that sounds harsh in any way but I just want to make you understand that you did the right thing. Even though it went against your beliefs - YOU DID THE RIGHT THING! I had a termination about a 18 months ago and it went against my beliefs too, even more so because I did have a choice but if I had chosen to have the baby, I wouldn't have been able to offer it any quality of life so for my situation, I did the right thing.

Now to try and enjoy life - I have suffered from severe anxiety in the past and tried tablets and therapy but the main thing that got me through it was me. I still suffer with anxiety but I have learnt to control it. I just tell myself over and over again that this is my one shot at life and I don't want to spend it worrying or stressing out or being depressed. I want to enjoy my life because I have only got one shot at it. Yes my life might not be perfect and I haven't achieved even half of what I wanted to do by this age (I am also a 24 year old woman) but I might as well enjoy it because tomorrow it could all be over. Love the people who love you, don't hold grudges (especially not towards yourself), try new things and always stand tall and shine bright like the star you are!

Good luck with the job hunt and I really do hope things work out for you =)

Firstly, if anyone does judge you then you need to quickly ignore their comments and delete them. I can relate to some of what you are saying as I have had depression for a long time and am only a year older then you. I have been on anti-depressants for almost 2 years now, and although they have no way solved any problems, they have made things slightly easier to deal with. I strongly recommend you go back to the doctor as a lot of the time they will put you on a very low dose. It also takes up to a month for them to start working. Its almost like a test - you need to keep going back and getting a different dose or different brand until you find something that works. Along side this you need to get them to put you in touch with a counselor. Please, ask for the adult one, not the one for 'young adults' i saw two of the latter and they did not help. I have finished counselling now, but have had some downs, one very large one recently. I realised that I will probably always have depression and need to accept myself for the way I am. It seems however that you have some very serious issues which need to get talked through and sorted out. You are NOT a killer. As you said yourself, you would have carried on with the pregnancy, it was just not to be. The coke cravings will also be very hard for you, I used to smoke weed every day just to go somewhere else in my head so i didnt have to deal with all the shite going on - I know how hard it is to cut something out completely - but you have to do it, because drugs really do make everything worse.

I know none of this will do much - but I really must stress that you go back to your doctor. I also came accross this page - turn2me.org which really really helped me - they have group sessions and forums which like minded people can help each other in. - it helped me a lot.

Please hang in there - it does get better eventually.

You lost and you learned. Life has some pretty hard lessons to teach us. Many women in your shoes don't survive all this. You are struggling with so much stress, pressures, changes... Your body and mind are trying to cope but ... it's hard.

The brain is a very complicated and delicate thing. It can get messed up and be unable to produce any or enough serotonin. This is called a chemical imbalance which is easily treated, very common and nothing to be ashamed of. It can cause depression, low self esteem, anxiety, sleep problems and more.

A dr (not a therapist) can prescribe appropriate meds to help you get better. Obviously the antidepressants you tried didn't work. So ask for a different type. Zoloft/Sertraline and Trazodone work great. With the right antidepressants, you will be much better, happier, calmer, confident, safer and feel normal. What a difference it makes!

You won’t get well by yourself and, by ignoring it, it will only get worse.

But counseling and meds can do only so much. God is the ONLY one who knows what you’re thinking, how you’ve struggled and what you’re going thru. He loves you passionately and wants to be your BFF. He has a super-deluxe custom-made plan for your life that’s beyond anything you ever dreamed of. BUT He waits for us to ask. Invite Him into your heart, ask Him to take over your life and your problems. Find a big, happy church and join some groups. God loves you more than you can possibly imagine :)

I'm so sorry for everything that has happened in your life! I can't imagine it, so bear with me :)

You need to stop this. Drugs. Everything. Turn your life around. Your wasting money. You will get in SO much trouble. You are killing yourself slowly. Your parents aren't helping in any way. It's good your moving in with your mum though. Someone you can talk to.

So you want to battle your depression withOUT medication. This is extremely tricky. You should at least buy some sleeping pills, but if you start to be addicted to them, throw them away. Tell your mum. Yeah, your right - you should get a job. Repay yourself all that money you throw away with those drugs. Don't get yourself a boyfriend. It's not worth it. Get yourself a best friend :) Boys will make it worse. Think about the happy thoughts. Think about those great times you had. Try your hardest and hopefully you can recover :)

You have no self-respect. Doing drugs, having sex with people you hardly know, cheating on your boyfriend. It's no wonder you are a mess. You should first work on getting sober and perhaps substituting your cravings with productive things. Then obviously get a job and work hard, have a boyfriend, etc.

I can understand why your life seemed to spiral downward, and I am sorry you had to go through all of this. I think you need to get some professional help, like a counselor. I have seen counselors in the past just to be able to talk out my problems and have someone care and listen without making me feel like I am a bad person. You aren't a bad person, you are a normal person who is dealing with life the best you know how. However, you are going about it wrong (coke and weed). I really think if you could find a counselor they could give you some great outlets to coping with your problems.

Nothing is ever easy, but at least you are listening to advice and others are listening to you. Keep following the advice, especially the doctor and your parents. Eventually you will be able to take more control of your life, but never give up.