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Cheating on Boyfriend?

I need some help. I have a boyfriend but I don't think I really want to be in a relationship. We've only been together for a month. I cheated on him Saturday which was our anniversary. The guy I cheated on him with is my best friend (don't try to understand cause you probably won't) I don't want to stay with my boyfriend knowing that I'm not being faithful because I don't think that's right and he doesn't deserve that. He deserves better. Im just not ready for a relationship. I like being single and not being tied down. My girl best friend told me to stay with him be because it would break his heart. She also said what he doesn't know won't hurt him which is true but my conscious will eventually get to me. I also don't think we are really compatible. We're not on the same level plus he has some qualities that are hard for me to deal with. I do have love for him but idk what to do. If I stay with him I'm going to cheat on him and he won't know but if I leave he will be heartbroken again. What Is your advice. Please don't be rude about the situation.

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  • 8 years ago

    Don't stay with him because you don't want to hurt him. You will hurt him much more in the long run if you stay with him when you really aren't interested in him. I think you should break up with him, but don't tell him that you cheated. That would really hurt him, and it is on your conscience, which should be punishment enough. You have to let him know that you're not interested in him though. Don't just say "I'm not ready for a relationship"....b/c he will then wait for you to BE ready for a relationship...and will be crushed when you date someone else instead of him. Best of luck!!!

  • 8 years ago

    If you don't want to be in a relationship, break it off. Staying in a relationship that you really don't want to be in isn't doing anyone any good, especially if you can't be faithful. Break it off sooner rather than later to spare you both the heartache, and don't get in a relationship again until you are 100% ready for the commitment.

    Good luck!

  • 8 years ago

    move on try hooking up with ya male best friend you cant be in a relationship with a male best friend tbh thats where you kinda messed up at and a female bestfriend kinda watch out for her bestfriend - should give you advice to help you learn from a mistake not make you feel good about ya mistake you probably should of said that in the beginning to ya boyfriend you could have had a fling trustme sometime we rather a fling than waste or time

  • 8 years ago

    I think you need to break up with him. Telling him about you being unfaithful is going to be up to you. Can you live with him not knowing? Or do you think he needs to know? Does he deserve the full truth or will it just hurt him unnecessarily? But do not lead him on and just explain to him that you do not think this will work out and that he deserves someone who matches him better. There is nothing wrong with finding out that you just dont match. But be honest about it. Don't let him waste his time and get major feelings for you. It only gets worse from there. Trust me.

    Good Luck!

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  • 8 years ago

    Honesty is the best policy love, Im telling you, after you let it be known, you will feel so much better. Dont be mean about it, just let him know that right now you cant give the relationship the effort it deserves. Good luck!

    Source(s): Been there, done that
  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

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  • 5 years ago

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  • Victor
    Lv 5
    8 years ago

    Ouch, this is a very, very complicated situation. I think that it would be best for both of you to discuss it. Either that, or break up with him, either way, he will be hurt, at least if you tell him, he might try to either do something to try to make you like him more and to fix things or he will break things up and both you and him will agree. Im sorry

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    It is unfair on both him and you to continue in a relationship like this. If you feel like you want to break up with him then do as if you don't you will probably get more miserable which will make things even worse.

  • Sarah
    Lv 5
    8 years ago

    Well, you'll just hurt him more if you stay with him. I mean, you cheated, so he'll obviously be hurt about that, but it hurts more if you're with someone you really don't want to be with. Put yourself in his shoes ... lets say you truly do love him, but he's just with you so you don't get hurt -- wouldn't you be more hurt knowing that he's living a lie with you? Don't do that to yourself OR to him. Time heals all wounds. Just leave, and you both will be happy in time.

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