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ATTENTION!!! Please help me people!!! Opinions are needed!!? :/?
Hi all, I really appreciate your time. Here's the issue:
Myself and my girlfriend are together for the last 15 months. I am 22 and she is 20. Everything is pretty good. BUT today my girlfriend's best friend Emma rang her and told her that her and her bf had split up and will not be getting back together. It seems as though all of a sudden now Emma wants more of my gf's time compared to when she was with her bf and never made the effort to travel upto Galway to seem my gf( Galway is where me and my gf are both in college). Not that I've a problem about her wanting to spend more time together.
She started saying stuff to my gf like "Oh I was talking to my lecturer and she said to me that I should head out to California for 3 months of the summer and that these are the golden years to enjoy yourself etc...". Emma is keen on the idea of heading to Califronia for the summer(We are all from Ireland). She then said she'd love if my girlfriend would come with her. Then she asked my girlfriend how our relationship was doing? My girlfriend said our relationship was fantastic and that things are going well and even told Emma about a cute thing I did for her recently.
It's just the following that really annoyed me: OUT OF NOWHERE Emma then brought up a big fight that me and my girlfriend had 7 months ago and said "that was a terrible fight wasn't it". A fight that took a while to get past. I thought this was TOTALLY DISRESPECTFUL TO OUR RELATIONSHIP AND VERY INAPPROPRIATE, VERY CHILDISH AND SELFISH. I mean, isn't a best friend supposed to be looking out for the other person's happiness and making them happy???
I'm just wondering what are your opinions on this and what are your opinions of Emma? Why do you think she brought this big fight up in conversation with my girlfriend??? I know why! You'd want to be braindead if you couldn't work it out!!! But my gf doesn't really see it my way and I want to show her all of YOUR neutralist opinions so that maybe she will see CLEARLY then!!! This has really annoyed me and especially the fact that my gf doesn't see it my way! Detailed & genuine responses will be very much appreciated! TOP ANSWER GETS 10 POINTS!!! :)
4 Answers
- 8 years agoFavorite Answer
It sounds like Emma is really lonely/upset about her breakup and is trying to get her friend (your girlfriend) to be with her to help her through this. A friend of mine recently did this to her roommate. My friend broke up with her boyfriend then kind of convinced her roommate that her boyfriend was garbage too. I think Emma wants your girlfriend to be her partner in crime or something in Cali and is bringing up old garbage to try to support that goal. Seems pretty shady bro.
- 8 years ago
I know when lady friends of your woman are going through a break~up, they do tend to reach to their friend ~ girls for support & can at times seem a little clingy to your woman & if this is the case, sit your woman down & tell her how you really feel & you may be surprised to find that your lady may feel the same as you.
It sounds to me from what you've described that this friend ~ girl of your woman is jealous, envious, with how well her friends relationship is going & not to mention that very nice thing you once did for your woman! Since this friend recently broke up with her mate, she is lonely, miserable, & most likely, very angry & therefore, these are the reasons why this so called friend brought up the arguement you had with your girl, this is just why this so called friend is trying to talk your girl into going to CA for 3 months of the summer ~ so your girl will be as lonely & miserable as she is as well as her hope to destroy your relationahip with your woman by keeping the two of you apart for spell & therefore, this friend won't hurt so bad when she sees how good your relationship is going with her friend while her relationship flopped!
Remember: misery loves company any way misery can have company, trust me when I say, misery will surely try!
It is time you & your girl have a heart~to~heart serious talk about this situation with your girls friend! It's time you discuss with her the interference this girl is causing within your relationship! Once the 2 of you come to an agreeable conclusion, compromise on how to best terminate this girl from your relationship for good! Your girl's friend may be going through a very painful rough patch & therefore she feels sad, miserable, & lonely but, that does not justify this girl trying to ruin her friends relationship! If this girl was really a true friend she surely wouldn't try to bring misery & ruin into her friends relations just because she herself is miserable! I wish you & your girl much luck, love, & happiness together!
- 8 years ago
Tell Emma straight up "you're making me uncomfortable talking about my relationship, please don't do it". If the problem continues call her a "jealous *****". If that doesn't work apologize and ignore her til she goes away.
- 8 years ago
Ugh, this Emma is jealous. She has no boyfriend and you sound very sweet to your girlfriend and she Envy's your girl. She wants a relationship like a boyfriend/girlfriend and boyfriends and girlfriends spend a lot of time together. To me, it sounds like she's trying to take your girlfriend away from you.
Don't let her get on your bad side, she's doing it to put your relationship in trouble. Just remind your girlfriend you love her, and she'll return it back then "Emma" will gradually ease of realising your relationship is unbreakable.
幸é~ Good Luck!
