Pregnant: emotions of me and my husband.?

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I'm 10 weeks pregnant. This is my third pregnancy. My husband is being a jerk right now. I work full time in the navy, and technically he's a housewife. We have a son in preschool and our second pregnancy didn't carry to full term. My husband thinks that I'm faking my symptoms which are nausea, moodiness, and tiredness mostly. He keeps telling me I'm not that pregnant. Today on our way home I was telling him a news piece on a surrogacy gone wrong, and halfway into my story he snapped at me and said he didn't have the attention span to hear it. I "being emotional" sat silently and tried to hold back tears from having my feelings hurt. He then yelled at me for crying. We got home and he left me at the car alone to carry in a very large variety of things which I did drop everywhere. 
I came downstairs after I'd dried my eyes and looked in the sink. I asked if he'd taked out any meat, so I could cook (yes me to cook even though I'm the one with a full time job) and I saw that for two days in a row now he hadn't even filled the dishwasher. I did it the two days before and almost every time before hand. He gets really mad at me and says I didn't even give him a chance to answer. He said he refuses to talk to me because all I do is cry. 

Usually he does better. He works on cars put of our garage, so he is busy during the day. I was just wondering what kind of reactions to your crying while pregnant your husbands had.

Crystal · Accepted Answer

He seems really stressed out. Most men feel like  less of a man when they are not the bread winners of the family. My husband was very caring of my feelings when I was pregnant. Sure he would get mad at me but when I would cry he would feel bad and calm down. But he was working and I was the one at home. Communication is key -- so I would talk to him in private (maybe at night when the kids are asleep) and ask him what's wrong and basically why he has been so mean lately. Speak In a calm way and try not to let yourself seem emotional about it. Ask if he is okay and let him know that it seems like he doesn't want a 3rd child. You'll feel a lot better when/if you just have a truthful talk with him. I hope it all works out for you .. !

Captain S · Answer

First, thank you for your service...even the service of a Squid counts! (LOL) Secondly, you both love and respect each other, but you occasionally take pot-shots at each other...I recommend you stop. Yes, you are pregnant so emotion swings are to be expected, but at 10 weeks you're still in the first trimester, so pace yourself a bit. He could listen more, sure, and you could make considerably fewer derisive comments about his being a stay-at-home father, or did you mean "housewife" as a pat on the back? If he's running a garage from home, he's contributing, too.Best wishes for a safe and healthy delivery. Semper Fi, Squidly.

? · Answer

I am a man, married for 26 years, and I went through 2 pregnancies with my wife.  I am here to tell you that any man who yells at his pregnant wife for crying is one seriously F-ed up douche bag.

Melissa P.: If you believe boredom and frustration at not working are valid excuses for emotional abuse, then I have one major piece of advice for you - don't ever get married.  Your standards are WAY too low!

User Of Yahoo · Answer

Sounds like he is miserable, for one of two reasons. He is tired of not working, and if you're full-time Navy then that doesn't leave him much room for work.. he is probably bored sick and tired of being home all of the time. As for the pregnancy, he seems like he is definitely not ready to father another child, otherwise he would be ecstatic that you are pregnant. Take some time off and let him work and do what he wants for awhile, he needs to feel pride again.

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