My girlfriend wants to have sex....?

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Just for the purpose of this question my girlfriends name will be: Kelsey

Anyways, I'm 18 y/o and just recently I entered a new relationship with Kelsey. Before dating, we were really good friends. We would text everyday, from wake till sleep. We would call each other on skype daily and just talk. She told me all her past secrets and I told her mine. Keep in mind that she is a very blunt girl and open about sex. So in her past, she has had sex with multiple guys and I've only received oral sex before. Just last night she started to tell me how she was sexually frustrated, and all this. I guess she was expecting me to say, "lets do it," or something. Today she started to push forward more and ask about days that we could do it, if I had condoms, etc. I just don't know if I want to do this to a girl that I like so much. I respect her too much to have sex with her, but she makes these side comments, "My boyfriend wont fulfill my pleasures :(, blah, blah." How can I talk to her without losing her or making her angry?

P.S. If you have nothing constructive to say please don't post, and no, I am not being a baby about it. Of course I'd like to have sex, I just respect her too much to do it so soon.

Vagatarian Only · Accepted Answer

I think you're very respectful of her by not wanting to soil her by having sex. Now on the other hand she does have her needs. You're being a big man by letting her have sex with these other guys. And you can always help her out by giving her oral sex. That way you won't be spoiling her by having sex with her, but you'll be helping her needs by giving her oral orgasms. Go ahead and encourage her to have sex with others, but let her know that you're ready to give her oral sex.

Grant · Answer

Sex is one of those things that once it's out of the bag, it's there to stay. Your girlfriend sees it as normal to have sex in a relationship because she's had enough past relationships. It's just like if you remember how long it took you to work up to making out with your first girlfriend, but how it happened much quicker with later ones. 

The fact is that you can either nut up and do what she wants or you can risk losing her. Maybe you can stall it for a while by talking about being nervous and how you need to work up to it. You guys could take it slower by doing oral first, and maybe you can suggest that to her.

PilotKelson · Answer

This is an interesting situation. But I'd say your best bet is to be up front and tell her that sex isn't just an activity but a moment to cherise. The time should be right when you are both comfortable and not just horny. I am glad my boyfriend didnt put out for me on our first date when I offered. Falling in love first made it the most romantic evening of my life. If she is in it for the long run, she can get over her urges and do right by you.

Pops · Answer

Some women like and need sex more than others.
Sometimes it is hormonal reasons.
Sometimes it is emotional, they feel rejected...
You need to really talk to her about it seriously.

The 2 of you see the respect thing differently and that is upbringing, religious views...

K · Answer

Justin, explain to her how you feel about her and that you would like for you two to wait, there is no rush. Emphasize on how beautiful she is inside and out, you want the first time together to just as special as she is to you ;0)

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