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Should I tell my mom I masturbate?

I am a 13 year old girl, and I use a back massager that I found in a closet in my house to masturbate. I can't stop thinking about it when I'm around people, and I don't know what to do. I keep wanting to do it but i feel guilty because i tell my mom everything! what do i do!? please help me, and what would i say to her?

Update:

and how do i stop thinking about the fact that i masturbated?? isn't it bad!

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  • 8 years ago
    Favorite Answer

    Sure, tell her, why not? You can also give her a demonstration and show her how you do it. Maybe your dad too?

  • Mircat
    Lv 7
    8 years ago

    There is nothing to feel guilty about. Nearly everyone masturbates. I don't want to freak you out but your mom probably does too. She undoubtedly did when she was a kid. That's how kids let off sexual energy. Then when you become an adult you do it just because you like orgasms. There's nothing dirty, or bad about it. Everybody, even married couples do it. They do it to turn their partner on and they masturbate each other. It's a normal sexual practice. Moms would rather their 13 year old daughter masturbated than go out and have sex!

    Masturbation is a personal sexual act and, therefore, people with class don't have conversations about it. You might when you are much much older and in a girly get together but not now and hardly ever unless you are with a sexual partner...years from now hopefully...and then its okay.

    My suggestion is that you keep this information to yourself. Moms have a difficult time sometimes accepting the fact that their baby girls are becoming sexual beings and having those feelings. They want them to stay sweet, innocent, and uneducated about such things. Your mom may have an open mind and be liberal about it but to be honest, there's no need to test the waters. She doesn't tell you when she masturbates and you shouldn't tell her when you do. It's private.

    I will caution you that when you do this you turn on some music because it makes you feel good in the moment and covers the sound of mechanical or girly noises. I also suggest you lock your bedroom door or put a door stop under it or a chair under the door knob. Privacy! You can buy a door stop at a hardware store and sometimes even at the grocery store.

    Have fun!

  • tevis
    Lv 4
    5 years ago

    Mom Masturbate

  • 8 years ago

    Masturbating is not bad or dirty, but can be unhealthy if done in excess. Think about how your mom will react, if she's understanding and open and easy to talk too-talk to her. Also, mechanical stimulation masturbation genital rubbing action, not only directly stimulate the urethra mouth, resulting in congestion and edema urethra, and the dirty masturbation caused by bacteria and other pathogens can easily invade the urethra and cause inflammation. (You should wash the massager off with soap and water every time). You may also want to visit the library and read first hand on the pros and cons of masturbating, do not continue long-term frequent uncontrolled masturbation it can be unhealthy and affect the growth of good health! Knowledge is power, visit the library or lokk on a trusted website and get informed, this will help you understand your body better.

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  • 8 years ago

    Okay, first thing don't tell her something like that. Okay well I guess you COULD but that kind of thing is a Personal pleasure thing. It's okay as long as you clean the massager ting and don't put it directly on your womanhood down there.

    It's normal to get curious about this and think about it all the time and you also feel guilty. At first it's like that, for me I even thought I'd get pregnant I felt so guilty! Of course that's total bull and I was stupid back then...but the guilt consumed me haha.

    I even looked up if I'd go to hell cause I heard people say it was a sin....ignore people who are like that, trying to tell you it's wrong, cause it's totally natural and fine to be curious and experiment with your body as long as you're careful and don't put things in there directly cause you can get a yeast infection or worse.

    If you feel you want to talk to your mom about it though to make you feel better, then okay but she may toss the massager away lol. I personally could never tell my mom, I mean she'd probably understand but it's just too embarrassing! I'm way beyond your age but I still find it embarrassing. I keep it to myself, it's just not something people want to know or should know about you lol

  • 8 years ago

    Don't tell your mom that! That's something personal and private. Even if you tell your mom everything, there are just some things that don't need to be said. It's nothing to feel guilty over; most people do it!

  • ?
    Lv 4
    8 years ago

    Don't feel guilty. This is something that is personal, and only you should know about it.

    They are your parents, yes, but they don't need to know EVERYTHING. It's not any of their business.

    There's nothing to feel guilty about. You are NOT doing anything morally wrong.

  • 8 years ago

    No, there is no reason to tell your parents anything about this and given your age they might just be mortified to find out. Just keep it to yourself and let the guilt go.

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    You should definatly NOT tell them. You are asking for the msot awkward conversation of your life if you do.

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