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Tired of partner's unemployment...please read!?

I am 20-years-old and at university studying journalism. I am currently in my second year and have a part-time job at a supermarket to increase my savings.

I have been with my almost 22-year-old partner a year and a half and shall be moving in with him in September. The place we're renting is completely affordable and we've worked out all the maths and know we'll be in a stable position.

However, my partner was fired from a job just before I got with him and has been unable to find work since with little qualifications except the absolute basics. This means I shall be paying the majority of rent and food in September if things carry on like this which is easily do-able just not exactly the ideal situation.

It didn't bother me until recently and I love him dearly as pretty much everything in the relationship is perfect other than this. We haven't argued once and are still absolutely smitten.

I was wondering if there's anything else that he, or we, could do to get him a job? He's perfectly happy with retail but never even makes the interview stage given his record and lack of references. He refuses to go back into education as he did 4 years of college and several courses which he failed for many reasons (personal circumstances).

It's starting to feel a bit hopeless now. At first I was confident he would get a job eventually and it would all be fine but it's been this way for much too long in my opinion.

Update:

He does feel absolutely awful for 'scrounging' off me and contributes every penny he can instead of using it for himself. It's really getting him down and it's not like he wants things to be like this. He really is a lovely guy and is trying his best but at the same time his record isn't exactly helping.

Update 2:

@Ben We're getting a flat in couples accommodation in halls of residence. It's £120 per week for two of us with all bills included so is a pretty good deal and certainly affordable.

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  • 8 years ago
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    if u see a future with this guy dont give up , he will probbley pay you back when he gets a job and help out finally , when your married you dont give up because your partner has no job , also is your place a house or an apartment rent out a room earn income that way

  • 8 years ago

    Honey, you have been supporting this guy for the last 18 months? He failed out of college, has no desire to find work and lets you pay his way? I'm sorry but what kind of future do you see with this guy? He sounds like a parasite. Do you have low self-esteem or something? You don't seem to have good sense where he is concerned. No way on earth I'd move in with him.

  • Anonymous
    4 years ago

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