Lesbian parenting? Opinions? Help?

There is NOTHING wrong with being a Lesbian parent. One of my good friends has two mums and she is the sweetest and one of the smartest girls I know. (And I'm not just saying that, she's taking college level courses in grade 12 and plans to be a doctor)

It may be harder to adopt, I'm not sure though. My friends mum had her baby (via Sperm Bank) and she's a social worker so...

My friend has never been bullied for having two mothers, aside from one incidence but she held her head high. I mean, it's not like she goes around telling everybody she has two mums. And generally people like her because she is so sweet. Her younger brother hasn't been bullied about it either. But if they are bullied, you have to understand its a part of life. People will always find an exude to bully, whether it be your hair or clothes or your parents - it wouldn't be your fault.

If you have a son, I'd reccomend having some male friends around for those awkward moments where a guy needs to talk to a man.

That's a very sensible question. It isn't particularly difficult to adopt if you are committed and willing to stick with the process, there are loads of needy kids out there. Boys aren't any harder to deal with than girls, all kids have their own challenges - how do you think straight women manage with sons? You pick it up! You're right about the bullying thing, it's always a consideration, but you know what? Kids are bullied for all sorts of reasons. If you can offer a child a loving home, supportive and open, you can deal with the bullying issue if and when it arises.

Plus, you don't know what will have changed by the time you are ready to have kids, you have a good few years before you even consider it! Laws and attitudes change all the time. You don't know how it will affect you in the future. Just make sure you go into it with a stable relationship, a clear head and a realistic view of the future. You'll be fine.

Adoption is not the only option, you and your partner can decide for an anonymous sperm insemination, that way, one of you gets pregnant. That seems easier to me, adoption can be really difficult, and expensive especially with same sex couples.

Bullying is everywhere. I'm sorry, but your boy, (or girl) will probably get made fun of because he has two moms, I had a friend in school who had two moms, and while most people were okay with it, he got a lot of grief from not only kids, but parents wouldn't invite him to birthday parties or play dates. Your job, no matter how awkward talking to your son (or daughter) may be, is to tell him nothing is wrong. Because nothing is wrong, you're his parents and regardless of sex, you love him (or her)

Don't be worried now though, children are a LONG ways away for you.

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By the time you are ready for kids, adoption should not be much more difficult for you than anyone else. (Which is still very tough). re Bullying- You could have a kid with red hair, or a big nose or freckles or glasses or very tall or very short or fat or thin or smart or stupid. These are all possible 'reasons' for being bullied. If you're not ashamed of your family make up your kid probably won't be either. If you bring your kid up confident, they will be as happy and able to deal with teasing as anyone else. (I'm not a lesbian but I am a child psychiatrist). Hope this helps.

Remember that are bunches of options for lesbians looking to start families. In addition to adoption there are a whole slue of options concerning sperm donation. Hopefully, by the time you're married/civil-unioned/partnered adoption and sperm donation won't be any harder for a two mommy house than a mommy and a daddy house. My older step-sister has two mothers and grew up in Massachusetts. She wasn't bullied at all, and that was in the '90s. America is becoming more accepting every day. Here's a super cool blog by a lesbian mother of two (one boy and one girl) about her adventures in life and parenting: http://uppoppedafox.com/

Don't worry too much, just focus on trying to be a good mother when the time comes. You can either adopt or you or your partner can get artificial insemination. I have a friend who is brought up by lesbian parents and nobody makes fun of her for it. In fact, a lot of people think it's really cool. :)

Well, since lesbians are completely superior in every way, it would be great to adopt.