How to get my ex back?

It sounds like you have a lot of experiences with this guy, good and bad. The best way I see this relationship ever working is to go out on a date and talk about what failed your relationship in the past.

A lot of relationship problems are communication issues. Not talking to each other, letting yourself get frustrated and eventually blowing up at each other.

So I suggest asking him out to a date, or don't even call it a date, just a get together, somewhere quiet like your house or where ever. If he is even remotely interested he will say yes, if he says no then you gotta forget about it. Easier said then done, but it ain't happening.

If he does say yes, you have to make it clear that you want to discuss your future together. Don't surprise him and expect him to enjoy himself. Then just go through and admit all of the things that you have done wrong in the past and make it clear to him that you have changed and you want to start fresh. I'm only assuming that you caused that last breakup because in your question you stated that "you are not the same controlling person" that you were before.

Also realize that if you get this far, you really do have to keep your promise otherwise he won't put up with you again.

That's the best I can think of. I'm sure there are other ways you might find, or maybe you can use my idea to plan your own. However, if I was this guy and my ex wanted me back, I would expect her to be completely honest and open with me, and communicate properly about how we are going to move forward. If I couldn't get that from her, I wouldn't have any interest whatsoever.

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You want to know how to rebuild your relationship and get your ex to come back. What can you do?

This can be a difficult enterprise. Sometimes the things you need to do will seem counter productive. You need to be strong and have faith in the process and yourself.

One important strategy is to step back and stay calm. Raging emotions are usually unhelpful. No desperation here, just logical thinking, in determining what you need to do to have the best chance of rebuilding your relationship.

You should realize that the break up could be permanent and you will have to prepare yourself for this eventuality. It is important here to understand that in the long term it is better to cut your loses and move on than keep pursuing a lost course. Look at it this way, it’s better to be alone than be in the wrong relationship.

Having said that, most relationships can be saved and worth a second chance.

If your ex is resisting making contact, then you need to show that you are OK with that. Acceptance of the situation can take the pressure off and prevent further damage being done.

Constant phone calls/text messages can drive your ex further from the idea of getting back together with you. It is better to have them wondering what you are doing. Remember the saying that absence makes the heart stronger

Did you know that most relationships CAN be salvaged? You may find it difficult to believe that almost every break up for whatever reason…infidelity, plain old lost passion, loss of interest, a stolen heart and worse…even the worst situations you can imagine…like men serving prison sentences have salvaged their relationships. Yes, even Ex-cons have got back together with girlfriends and wives after being away for years!

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