Why does Society Lie about Relationships?

I know this is long, but it's an issue people need to be made aware of.

When people cry out for help and tell those around them that they are getting desperate to find a partner, society tells them not to rush it, that "the right person" will come along when they least expect it! At least, that's the common answer that I see here in Yahoo! Answers, and it is the common message portrayed by the media.

But the reality is that many people are old and single. The "right person" doesn't always show up out of the blue. Especially if you are not actively searching. It might, but more often then not, he who doesn't look doesn't find.

Society promises people that they will find the right person and be happy. Is this really a good thing?

It seems to me like this is akin to a wealthy person promising the child of a poor family that Santa will give him that 70 inch ultra HD 3D TV and an Alienware gaming computer for Christmas! A selfish promise, just like society's. A promise that shifts the responsibility of giving hope to the one asking for help. A promise that allows society to wash its hands of responsibility.

It makes it much worse to be a 50-old-virgin if society tells everyone that the right person will come along. It puts that person into an "abnormal" category. Society's message is: "Since he did not find the right one, and everyone finds the right one, there must be something wrong with him!"

Not only that, but the media shows how amazing love (or even simply loveless sex) is over and over, which makes it all the worse for people who can't get it.

Wouldn't it be better if society was honest with people and, instead of telling them that the "damsel in distress", or "prince charming" will come along some day, told them the truth —to go out and look, and be prepared for let-downs over and over again; and to find some good hobbies because the reality is that they might never find someone that likes them, let alone loves them, let alone "the one"? Or that if they do find them, they could screw it up, things could go wrong, etc?

For some people, it is unrealistic to say that they are even likely to ever find anyone at all! It is a sad reality that in this world not everyone is good looking, or good company, or fun, but it is the reality we live in. Isn't lying to these people ultimately worse than having them face reality and move on to doing something different with their lives? Just because they are ugly, weird and boring doesn't mean they don't have feelings, and deserve to live a fulfilling happy life in some other area that perhaps doesn't involve romance.

It seems that this is an issue that many people face at some point in their lives: the ordeal of finding a sexual partner.

Since it is such a huge problem for so many people, and a problem nobody deals with very well, maybe there should be a class in high school that taught people how to look, and how to deal with not finding the right partner, or any partner.

It should be a class that you must take in order to graduate, but you can chose which year to take it in. That way, the students can take it when they feel it's time, without the ridicule of it being "the one who had to take the sex class", since it is a required course.

After coming to the realization that I might never find the right girl, it sucked, but after some time, I have come to terms with it, and have even gotten to the point where I feel like I can be content and live a fulfilling life without all of that. Isn't that better than waiting your entire life, and realizing this too late? Isn't it better to realize this early rather than late, when you have spent so much of your life waiting for someone that was never to come?

I think it's incredible that something like anorexia gets so much attention while this doesn't. This probably causes FAR more depression and deaths through suicide than body image portrayals!

What are your thoughts?