I can't hold conversations in person...?

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...but I have no problem chatting by text or on facebook chat.  I know this sounds like a teenager's problem, and I feel ridiculous writing this at 26 years old, but it's a genuine worry of mine.  Whenever I'm with someone in person, conversation comes VERY hard for me and normally after a few minutes it peters out to a rather charged silence.  However, as I have said, when I don't have to physically TALK, I have much less of a problem.  OK yes, so I stutter, and that may be a reason, but I have gone through therapy my WHOLE life to overcome it, and have only recently noticed this problem, so it can't be that my therapy hasn't worked and I'm just nervous about speaking, surely?  Any advice on becoming more social?  I don't want to become a recluse, who everyone sees as boring.

Tom F · Accepted Answer

I keep coming back here to check up on this answer. I'm a tad bit older than you and have a similar problem, but I'm (self-diagnosed) with a serious case of social anxiety disorder. Are you a very outgoing person? Are you a party person?

This may be one of the most ridiculous advices ever given, but one of the ways to cope is to have a drink which will help you loosen up. I personally wouldn't overdue it and seem like a drunk if not a social meeting.

Okay, admittedly, this is a really bad advice. I personally can't even bring myself to go see a professional (I don't believe in them) so a more suitable advice to see if you can visit a therapist, who'll at least be able to see if you can be diagnosed. Maybe it's something that'll work for you.

dalhaus · Answer

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Drew S · Answer

Coming from a 16 year old, it is quite hard but you have to get comfortable with the person. And never talk about yourself, always keep asking questions about what they say.

Anonymous · Answer

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