Boyfriend doesn't want baby?

Wow this is heavy. I'm 35 years old, no kids, kinda do what I want, etc. I'm pretty much like him. HOWEVER...If I were to bring a child into this world, I would MAN UP and be the best dad I could be. Maybe he's just in shock or something, but I think eventually he will come around. Fact of the matter is: He's a dad now, and he's got a job to do.

Sure, it could. Correctly, it's a necessity that he has a car seat for the child. Individually, i do not believe anybody who does not even get anything as critical as a vehicle seat for his youngster is match to have unsupervised/overnight visitation, however that is one other story. Go to Toys R Us/babies R Us and ask a earnings rep for support. Inform her or him the child's age, and he/she must be equipped to help you in finding an suitable one. This isn't a just a first-class factor for the dad, it is a nice and accountable thing for the youngster. I am sorry, nevertheless it must be mentioned - I believe so unhappy for the baby that a lady who has never even met him is taking the time to worry about his safety when the own father doesn't. What if the baby bought in poor health in the middle of the night time and needed to go to the ER? What if every other little minor emergency came up, and the dad used to be unable to safely transport him? It's unlawful for a baby to ride in a vehicle with no appropriate auto seat. If Dad tries to, PLEASE make an anonymous name to DSS; the youngster's lifestyles is dependent upon it.

I'm a single mom and had to move back in with my parents when I was pregnant. I was their biggest mistake because I got pregnant without finishing my degree. Anyway, my dad hated me and everything to do with the baby. When I told him I was pregnant he wanted me to get an abortion immediately. But I didn't... The first time he mentioned the baby was like 8 months into the pregnancy and he said "eat this, its good for the baby" the first time he ever acknowledged her! And then when she was born, my dad came to visit us at the hospital and stay for 1 hour and didn't even hold her. Because he said he just came from work and was dirty... Anyway, I stayed at my brothers and his wife's place for her first month so that someone could be around with me. After about 2 months of moving back in with my dad, he slowly warmed up to her. He began by taking her for a few minutes while I ate or had to take a shower ....btw he didn't even play with her or talk to her, just hold her and watch tv. Then it led to him playing with her. And now he lights up everytime he sees her!!! Before he was prioritizing my finishing my degree back in the Philippines because it looks "bad" to our family, but now he feels I should stay here because its a better life for my daughter, his granddaughter. It takes a while because there are so many mixed feelings. But he'll warm up. How can you now with such a beautiful baby girl! And once she "does things" like hold his finger and smile and giggle, you can't turn away from it. She'll become his world and I understand you that he'll regret missing out on the pregnancy and the little moments of when she was young... But at least you'll have him in her life and it will definitely come! Good luck! And hugs to little one!!!

its hard, my bf and I planned our first son but when my son was born he didn't seem to interested but he told me hes just nervous because he was born early and he was so tiny. he has a 9 yr old son but when he was born that's when him and his ex split so he never had much ecperiance with babys.

so he wouldn't hold him, change him, play with him feed him or nothing. there was a time we got in a fight his ex wanted him back after all these years cause she knew I was pregnant and she wanted himt o leave me so she said I cheated, even tho I never did well my bf started saying he knew it that's why he wasn't interested in the abby. it hurt. but he only said it when hes mad, when hes happy he says he knows its his

I got pregnant again and it wasn't planned and during my pregnancy he didn't go to any doctors and I had a bad pregnancy where my baby wasn't growing at all. well he stayed with me one night but then worked the next day, when he left my house I went into labor, I texted him but he fell asleep so he missed it. but it was suprising when my son was in the nicu for 2 weeks he was thre by my side, but then when my baby came home he stayed away and looked like he was mad we had another kid like he didn't want it.

but when I talk to him about it he tells me he Is so happy and that since we have two kids it means a lot to him and hes just nervous since he feels he will hurt the baby.

but now my son is 22 months and 3 months and my bf has gotten better. so maybe give him time, he may be nervous and not know what to do. but make sure that u dnt forget him, show him that sinc eur baby is there he is still the love of ur life too,!

i told the father of my baby that i was pregnant he,d see it as an excuse for me getting back with him, even though i really was pregnant. we did date for a few months then we did it one last time and i got pregnant but didnt know until a month later.i started talking to him without telling him i was pregnant and found him very immature, i stopped talking to him because he was really cocky and said he wanted to see the world with a girl he was being with and what not. so i let him be,i told him when i was due and he never called she is now 4 months and havent heard from him. maybe he wants me to tell him to be responsibke as he doesnt think for himself.but why? if he doesnt want the best for her or care much then why force him to live a lifestyel he doesnt want. leave him and g on your own

This is something that needed discussed WAY before you hop in bed with any man. You BOTH should use protection, because a man who does not want a baby DOES NOT want a baby. And FYI -- you are not a 'good girl'. Good girls take precautions and prevent this. He might warm up in time. But it sounds like he is a wild life free spirit.

Those are all very good answers. But if I had to choose between my child or my man. My man would be packing his stuff and leaving. The most important relationship in life is that of parent and child. And yes he will regret this some day. When he matures.

If he can't love his own offspring, he doesn't love you either. You're probably supporting him financially or providing him with a place to shack up which is why he sticks around. Once he finds a childless woman who will take him in, you'll be old news. You need a reality check.

This is what happens when you have ababy with a person who dosent want one you should care what he thinks your daughter should be your priority not him. If you loved your baby like you say you do kick him to the crb and take care of her

he sounds selfish and immature. if he didnt want a kid, surely he could have used a freakin condom? ask him to man up and accept the life he helped bring in this world.